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Where to buy quality underwear?

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snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:01:06

I recently bought 2 multi packs of knickers from a well-known store, in a style and size I've worn for years.
They didn't seem to fit right. Theres not enough material in the back and way too much stretchy material in the front.
I've compared them with my older pairs (5 years old and more) and there is now definitely more material in the crotch area! (almost a pouchy effect on some of the pairs, a bit like men's underpants confused)

I went online to read some of the reviews and there are male people raving about these knickers, saying that "there's enough room for men to wear them" basically they can fit their their male bits in them.

Aibu for being shocked that even women's underwear is now under attack?
So now we have to wear saggy, pouchy underwear, just because transwomen might get upset if there isn't enough room for them to fit their junk in?
(most transwomen these days don't have bottom surgery and choose to keep their male penises and testicles). I'm not sure if many Gransnetters are aware of that)

Aibu to think there should be a separate section for transwomens underwear?
Manufacturersshould not be changing and messing around with women's underware and shoving extra material into areas that have no need of extra material.
Why do women always have to budge up to accommodate others?
I'm prepared to be told to shut up and #bekind.
Which is what usually happens.

Oh and I would have put this in Feminism if we had such a section.

Lucca Tue 15-Feb-22 09:02:56

Seriously?????

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:04:15

Yep seriously.

Aldom Tue 15-Feb-22 09:04:53

Just change your underwear supplier. I have not encountered this problem.

Riverwalk Tue 15-Feb-22 09:05:21

Why not name the store, or add a link. Is it M&S?

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:07:13

And yes I would also begringringringrin because let's face it, any talk about pants is hilarious hmm and yes it is petty on its own, but its part of a bigger picture. So perhaps not so funny in the grand scheme of things.

Lucca Tue 15-Feb-22 09:10:26

I meant are you really posting about this…
Just buy other knickers

MayBeMaw Tue 15-Feb-22 09:11:22

I think the word you want is gussets

Luckygirl3 Tue 15-Feb-22 09:13:02

Love the word gussets - very Miranda! smile

Lucca Tue 15-Feb-22 09:13:41

Oh Maw ! ?

MayBeMaw Tue 15-Feb-22 09:14:39

It’s a brilliant word- with the right emphasis, almost an expletive! ?

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:15:21

Isn't gusset the undercarriage bit?confused
The gussets are fine. Its the part that goes in front of the public bone area that has all the access material.

Lucca Tue 15-Feb-22 09:15:58

Access ??!!! Excess I guess

Doodledog Tue 15-Feb-22 09:18:23

I suspect that if there are more transwomen buying these pants than women, they will continue to cut them more roomy, and women will have to find other styles that suit them better. That won’t be difficult though, as there will always be plenty of styles to fit women. There are more of us, and always will be, however much the language police rob the word of its meaning.

Realistically though - transwomen need pants, so it’s a bit of a non-issue ?. There is no point in making them look the same as women’s pants on the packaging, however, as that way no-one will know where they are and which style to buy. Ultimately, they will need some sort of indication on the packaging or work done on the branding/marketing to attract transwomen and deter women, or they will all and up being returned.
(And yes, I am aware that there is a high risk that this thread is a wind-up!)

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:18:25

You'll be pleased to know I will no longer be buying my underwear from this particular place?

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:19:38

Doodledog

I suspect that if there are more transwomen buying these pants than women, they will continue to cut them more roomy, and women will have to find other styles that suit them better. That won’t be difficult though, as there will always be plenty of styles to fit women. There are more of us, and always will be, however much the language police rob the word of its meaning.

Realistically though - transwomen need pants, so it’s a bit of a non-issue ?. There is no point in making them look the same as women’s pants on the packaging, however, as that way no-one will know where they are and which style to buy. Ultimately, they will need some sort of indication on the packaging or work done on the branding/marketing to attract transwomen and deter women, or they will all and up being returned.
(And yes, I am aware that there is a high risk that this thread is a wind-up!)

Finally, a discussion!
Even if you don't agree with everything I've said

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:20:30

And it's not a windup.

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:21:10

Lucca

Access ??!!! Excess I guess

Typo. Excess it is.

Doodledog Tue 15-Feb-22 09:26:33

snowberryZ

You'll be pleased to know I will no longer be buying my underwear from this particular place?

That’s the obvious solution, isn’t it? In the end, you will still have plenty of choice of knicker styles, and transwomen will be able to buy ones to fit them. It’s a nuisance that you had to return the ones you bought, but otherwise no harm done.

Are you sure there was nothing to suggest that they were aimed at TW? It seems a very poor marketing strategy to design for a specific demographic and then make no attempt to let them know the items are available.

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:30:14

I wonder if in future mens underwear will be made with less material, to accommodate transmen. I doubt it somehow hmm

Granmarderby10 Tue 15-Feb-22 09:32:35

About the shrinking gusset: I’ve been thinking the reverse strangely.
Surely they should be engineered to efficiently catch any drips??‍♀️

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:33:00

Doodlebug, you mean like when they put a V on food packaging to indicate it's suitable for vegans?
goes through bin to check packaging for giant T

FannyCornforth Tue 15-Feb-22 09:33:39

I have seen many reviews about women’s knickers on the M&S website written by men, extolling their virtues.
The lacy ones in particular.
It’s been highlighted elsewhere.
It is definitely a thing.

GagaJo Tue 15-Feb-22 09:35:29

snowberryZ, if you don't like the ones you're buying, buy others. It's a buyers market. If no one buys big gusset knickers, they'll stop making them.

Of course, there is the trend towards making period pants to use instead of sanitary protection. Maybe big gusset pants are a step in this direction?

snowberryZ Tue 15-Feb-22 09:39:26

FannyCornforth

I have seen many reviews about women’s knickers on the M&S website written by men, extolling their virtues.
The lacy ones in particular.
It’s been highlighted elsewhere.
It is definitely a thing.

Obviously some woke idiot designer is pandering to them and making their lacy pants more 'male friendl' More material and more stretchy in the front.

Like I said , they should have their own section.