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Assigned female at birth

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pinkprincess Tue 15-Mar-22 22:32:04

One of my granddaughters, who is in her early twenties has just had a letter rom the NHS inviting her to go for a cervical smear test ''because she was assigned female at birth''
AIBU to suggest this is PC going too far?

FarNorth Sat 26-Mar-22 09:25:42

How far does it need to go for you to agree sex can change?

Sex can't change.
A person's body remains female or male, regardless of any of those things being done to it.

where there is a need for single sex spaces that is protected.
I am easily able to recognise when that is the case while being inclusive.

Clearly you are not, VS, since you don't understand that a person's sex can never change so you are never talking about reality, on this.

Given that trans people had been using the toilets they desired for decades without issue it made sense to protect that as a right.

1. That has never been 'protected as a right'

2. With increasing numbers of people identifying as trans, and no way of knowing if they are doing it in good faith, there needs to be a new arrangement made to protect everyone's need for privacy, safety & dignity.

Mollygo Sat 26-Mar-22 10:05:38

Given that trans people had been using the toilets they desired for decades without issue it made sense to protect that as a right.
See FN’s post above?
Proof of that statement?
Sense to whom?

Given that . . . genuine (for want of a better word). . . trans people had been using the toilets they desired for decades without issue
Actually your statement has proved my point. (Someones usually shout “own goal” here.)
If it has been happening, it has been without issue . . . because transpeople have used the toilets without any ill intent.

Those transpeople would probably still go unnoticed, because, as has been correctly pointed out, most trans people go out of their way not to demonstrate that they are the sex they actually are.

The need for single sex toilets to become a right, has arisen because of the few transwomen who choose to use them with ill intent, whether that ill-intent is simply to display their bits, stroke their beards and leer to demonstrate they are male, showing that men’s rights override those of females, or for a more sinister or dangerous purpose.

Chewbacca Sat 26-Mar-22 10:31:50

The final paragraph of your post @10.05 is precisely the issue MollyGo. I have to look sideways at the sports person who, having recently announced that they're now "a woman", would feel the need to parade around the women's shower rooms displaying their genitalia. It all seems so counter productive to being accepted as their new chosen gender and raises many questions for me as to their motive.

DiamondLily Sat 26-Mar-22 15:38:42

I would have said toilets were an easy issue to solve.

I, and my husband, have disabilities, and use (if available), the "disabled" loos. They are usually "gender neutral", single rooms, and it doesn't matter at all who uses them, because people go into them alone, one at a time, and no one is made to feel uncomfortable.

Surely, we could have gender neutral single room toilets for able bodied as well -then it wouldn't matter what sex are using the rooms. No one would feel uncomfortable. Some hospitals already do this.

But, I, personally, if I have to use a normal ladies loo, would prefer not to have males in there with me.

And, to be honest, my husband would prefer not to have females in the men's loos.

I'm sure we're not alone in that.

Ali08 Mon 28-Mar-22 08:39:43

A woman in my family who is pregnant was told to fill in an online form, instead of seeing the usual people they'd see outside of pandemic times.
As well as being a long form it also asked what her gender was?
"Well I'm bloody pregnant, so what the hell do they think I am?!"
Haha, that was such a laugh.

Doodledog Mon 28-Mar-22 08:59:54

That’s the rub, Ali08. Only women (ie those of the female sex) can be pregnant, as only women have the female gametes required for reproduction. Males have male gametes and no amount of shouting or refusal to debate will change that - it’s like Knut shouting at the sea to change direction.

What your relative was asked was about her gender, which is different. Obviously she is female, or she wouldn’t be pregnant, but the question was because she could be a transman, who ‘identifies’ as a man, despite being in the ultimate female situation - that of childbirth.

When it comes to the delivery of the baby, however, Nature will take over, and no amount of ‘identification’ will change things, but the question is the perfect illustration of the difference between gender and sex. One can (arguably) be changed, so is pretty meaningless, and the other is fixed, so is not.

FarNorth Thu 31-Mar-22 12:49:27

Some transwomen claim to have period pains.
Here is a well thought out response to them.

twitter.com/duapilled/status/1507449299298238471?s=11&t=3l1DUmK5xVxOmOk0Dp23BQ

Mollygo Thu 31-Mar-22 13:32:40

Thanks for that FarNorth
Some transwomen claim to have period pains. ???
If there was any aspect of being a genuine woman I’d happily wish on all TW who claim that, it would be period pains, followed by hot flushes, menopause and just for good measure, a hysterectomy (or a hysterical rectum, as I overheard two women discussing). Go for it TW!

FarNorth Fri 01-Apr-22 09:34:55

An excellent article on having gender dysphoria and not identifying as trans.

ceriblack.substack.com/p/guest-post-from-lauren-black

DiamondLily Fri 01-Apr-22 10:43:01

Mollygo

Thanks for that FarNorth
Some transwomen claim to have period pains. ???
If there was any aspect of being a genuine woman I’d happily wish on all TW who claim that, it would be period pains, followed by hot flushes, menopause and just for good measure, a hysterectomy (or a hysterical rectum, as I overheard two women discussing). Go for it TW!

Yep, being a woman is not all diamonds and tiaras lol ?