AIBU - Friends have booked same holiday

Little point being annoyed about something you have no control over.
I wouldn't be bothered and my husband certainly would not care he leaves the holiday planning to me. He hasn't got time to worry or be annoyed about the small stuff puts all his energy in getting his work and employees ready for him not being there
I really can't understand how this would spoil the holiday

Im with Calendargirl. I don't think I'd be too chuffed if they used my name without permission to get themselves a discount. It might also be a Data Protection issue if they used your details and you did not know. In future I'd be very guarded about telling them anything.

OP

Did you know they would use your reservation to save money?

I really don’t understand why you’re upset. It seems petty. If they’d booked the same dates as you, I’d get it, but who cares if they’re going on another date. Be grateful you don’t have more important things to be stressed about.

Perhaps your husbands other problems are making him take this out of proportion. Maybe it would help if you tackled the root cause of those problems.

Forget about your friends and enjoy looking forward to your holiday.

Go and enjoy your holiday. Keep away from them till you get back and be careful in future what you tell them. Some people have no imagination or ideas of their own . It could be illegal to use your name to get discount and I would not like my name being used without my permission.

Yes a bit annoying. But some people have no original ideas of their own. Just make it politely clear that you don't want to hear anything in advance about the trip as you want it to be a surprise. In fact, maybe say you'd prefer to meet up after you've both had your holiday so you can compare notes without bring influenced by each other.

A bit puzzled by this, it’s a cruise, there will be thousands of people on it before you. Just don’t see them before you go/after they come back.

The reaction from your husband is bizarre.

I think your husband is being unreasonable. If you'd known what your friends were intending, think how silly it would sound - sorry, you can't go on that holiday until we've been.

I think you need to give these 'friends' a bit bit of space if that's the effect their (admittedly a little bizarre and presumptuous) have on you.

I read it, thinking with horror that they had booked the same dates. I can’t see the problem. Avoid seeing them for a few weeks before you go if it really bothers him.

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest, why cant they experience this wonderful new cruise ship and experience for themselves? If everyone thought that way, the cruise ships/holiday destinations would be empty, well not quite but...

I would most certainly not want to hear X, Y and Z about it before you go and you did right telling them that. How i see it is that you must have painted a wonderful picture for them to want to book it, which makes me then think, in the first place, if they are such avid cruise lovers and I sing from the roof tops of how absolutely wonderful the experience would be, am I paving the way for the possibility of them booking the self same thing ! In which case I would keep my gob shut... ( if i didn't want them to experience it, but as I say, it wouldnt bother me in the slightest )

I hope you have a FANNNNNNNTASTIC time, I have been in a few cruises and I know how fabulous they are.

Enjoy

I’m trying to picture what a charmed life somebody has lived to then be floored by such an insignificant issue.

Merylstreep
I agree, I imagine many people would gladly tolerate this small inconvenience if they were about to embark on a luxury cruise.

To me it is a non issue.

As you do not have exclusive rights on this cruise, I really think YABU . If “bigging it up” to your friends gave them the idea- well who can you blame but yourselves?
Take comfort in the well known cliché that “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery”.

I’m trying to picture what a charmed life somebody has lived to then be floored by such an insignificant issue.

Me too Meryl, me too.

Very mean minded . So if you praised a restaurant vuoi wouldn’t want them to go to that either? Sometimes I am completely”floored “ by the pettiness of some GN contributors

Of course! Cruising is such a status thing. All the way up to luxury yachts. And they have gone oneup by booking earlier.
And people do brag about their cruises.
Be grateful you can go at all.

Of course! Cruising is such a status thing. All the way up to luxury yachts. And they have gone oneup by booking earlier.

Well, I never knew

I can certainly see why you feel that your friends have taken the gilt off your gingerbread. Very bad luck.

And yes, you should surely be the ones getting the voucher? The fact that they didn't tell you about that in advance makes it look as though they realised it was questionable. Or that they are very thick skinned I suppose.

My thoughts exactly Merylstreep.

winterwhite

I can certainly see why you feel that your friends have taken the gilt off your gingerbread. Very bad luck.

And yes, you should surely be the ones getting the voucher? The fact that they didn't tell you about that in advance makes it look as though they realised it was questionable. Or that they are very thick skinned I suppose.

Why should their friends go on the cruise ? They aren’t going at the same time ?

So petty.

Yes, you are being very unreasonable. This is nothing to miffed about ?‍♀️

I know I'm eccentric and think differently to most people. And that is ok. I'm also a committed Christian and thinking about the next life and things of God as well as writing and politics and life and the daily grind. However- I cannot for the life of me imagine anyone choosing to spend their life thinking such a small way as this. You are aware there is a war going on in the Ukraine? Women are being raped and murdered and whole towns destroyed. I think you are not only being unreasonable but that you are wasting your short time here on earth thinking about as unimportant a thing as is possible. Your husband needs to give his head a wobble, bless him. Yes petty and grudging and unreasonable. But more sad than unreasonable. Time to be more outward looking.