AIBU - Friends have booked same holiday

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Mixed reactions! Your husband is perfectly entitled to feel a bit miffed. But perhaps you can help him understand not to make a mountain out of a molehill. ! If he’s depressed at the moment then that’s different. Reiterate to your friends that you don’t want to hear a word about it so that you don’t get a false picture of the scenario. Hopefully they will get the message! Lesson to be learned .. don’t tell anyone anything! Have fun

This happened to us albeit in 1985. We got married in 1984 and booked our honeymoon for November 1985. My supposed best friend got married in 1985 and booked the exact same honeymoon but earlier in the year. They went, it was a Caribbean island, and came back to tell me how much they hated it. I had a feeling this was going to happen but couldn't for the life of me work out why anyone would want to be so spiteful. Since then I've always been very cagey about telling other people where we are going. We had a lovely time btw.

I cant work out what the problem is. Tell your friends you don't want to know any details so you can experience it first hand.

Would this have bothered your husband if he wasn't "a bit down right now"?

If it would, remember both of you from now on, not to discuss holiday plans with friends until you are practically on you way out the door.

If these friends are back from their cruise before you leave, just don't answer or return their calls.

Yangste1007

This happened to us albeit in 1985. We got married in 1984 and booked our honeymoon for November 1985. My supposed best friend got married in 1985 and booked the exact same honeymoon but earlier in the year. They went, it was a Caribbean island, and came back to tell me how much they hated it. I had a feeling this was going to happen but couldn't for the life of me work out why anyone would want to be so spiteful. Since then I've always been very cagey about telling other people where we are going. We had a lovely time btw.

Oh, now that really is mean, if it was your honeymoon!

Don’t let them spoil your experience by showing you all their “experiences” before you go, that aside it’s a non issue in my book.

Can't see a problem with this - unless you had made a point of asking them not to go on that ship ! A bit cheeky to use your info to get that discount though!
Suggest you don't see these friends until after you have been on your cruise and then you can get together and compare notes as I bet no two cruises are the same.
Only other alternative would be to contact Virgin and change your ship or dates, which is a faff.
Sorry, but however disappointing it is, there is no way you could ban people from doing what your friends have done and it's just a shame that they managed to get booked in, before you did.

Why would you mind? Unless you're just going so you can tell people about it. I've heard of travelling yourself interesting, but this is the first time I've come across it!

Next time dont tell anyone your plans, its as easy as that.

I think your husband is BU, and for some reason you feel reluctant to tell him.

It certainly sounds like you’ve advertised this cruise very effectively to your friends! Nothing you can do about that now. But if you want to maintain your privacy in future, it might be an idea not to share your activities so freely?

Just avoid them for the month before you go and say you don't want to hear anything about it because you don't to spoil the surprise. As others have said I thought you were going to say they were on at the same time.

I can see where you're coming from but take it as flattery that you have good taste. Personally I would listen to their adventures, you might pick up tips on things to do or not to do on board. Listening is free.

Have a wonderful cruise.

I thought you were going to say they were going at the same time as you. Thank goodness that isn't happening. I would do as you say and ask them not to tell you about it. I wouldn't let it worry you. Have a fantastic time.

A cruise liner uses 80,000 gals of fossil fuel per day! Shame either of you are going on a cruise. Should be the first things banned in the name of conservation.

My goodness!!

Your husband is upset about friends booking the same cruise as you. Yet they aren’t going at the same time as you.
What’s to be upset about.
When they come back they can tell you the pro’s and the cons if there are any.

I certainly wouldn’t be upset about the prospect of a luxury cruise.

Like others I thought they'd booked at the same time as you! I certainly would have been horrified about that.

As it is, I'd not worry. Wish them well and say you'll look forward to discussing the trips after you're both back.

I really wouldn’t be upset at all. You actually enthused about it and gave them the idea. You are being far too sensitive. If they had booked the same dates I may be able to agree with you

You sold the thing to them by being so enthusiastic and dare I say it a bit smug about the whole thing. You better hope that this lives up to every word of your description or you will never hear the end of it and neither will any friends that you share jointly. I do hope that you haven't gilded the lily.

Stuff happens, I remember when my dd birthday was coming up it was her 11th she wanted her ears pierced and she told her friends who lived next door they promptly went and had there’s pierced before she did. She was so angry she never told them anything again. Perhaps that what you should do in future.

Supposing they had booked the cruise even before they had heard about it from you. You'd have dismissed it as coincidence, and thought no more about it. So they're going before you. So what!

My parents in law used to do this...not with cruises but countries. If we said we were thinking of going to a country they would go there before us.
We then started to say we wanted to visit a country that we had NO intention of going to They would go and tell us all about it and we just said "that's nice" in a Mrs Brown voice lol and say we had gone off it

I cannot believe that you can be irritated by this, it’s not as if a ship that carries thousands of people is exclusive. You’ve probably extolled the virtues of this holiday so much that you’ve ‘sold’ it to them - it’s your own fault for boasting.

I too thought you were going to say they were going on the same dates as you, and that would be good cause for upset.

But as it is I cannot see any reason to be upset at all. They are perfectly entitled to choose the same holiday - you do not have exclusive rights to this cruise option! Your husband's reaction is childish and unnecessary and will only spoil his own enjoyment, so very self-defeating. If I were in the same situation, I would have told him to grow up.

LizzyG
I don’t think you are being unreasonable, yes I can understand some of the comments but not the nasty ones.

I think it’s a da***d cheek using your booking to get a reduction
in their costs.I am afraid I would be on to the cruise company asking how they had felt it was perfectly alright to give someone who may or may not be known to you the financial details of your booking.They obviously haven’t heard of the
data protection laws which they have clearly broken.
These friends of yours could have been anyone a scammer even
the cruise line had no evidence that you even know these people.
I think when it comes down to it that might be one of the reasons your husband is so upset.
Enjoy your cruise don’t let this ruin it.

Well why tell them then in the first place! I can’t see why anyone would be floored! Like one of the earlier posters mentioned or was it you didn’t want them stealing your thunder! They are not even going the same time! Honestly! No big deal ?