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4allweknow Fri 20-May-22 10:22:49

Dear Daughter died 2019. For the funeral and as per her wishes I bought an outfit I considered she would approve of. DH died last week and his wishes basically the same as DD. The outfit was for me quite expensive and has not been worn since. Would it be considered insensitive to wear the exact same out to DHs funeral.

Redhead56 Sat 21-May-22 09:35:17

Wear whatever makes you comfortable at this most difficult time and take care of yourself.?

Shelflife Sun 12-Jun-22 22:14:04

I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with everyone here, you must wear the same outfit ,I think it is a most appropriate thing to do. It will also relieve you of the task of searching for a new outfit - please don't spend any time thinking about this . You have an outfit you are comfortable in so do wear it again.

Georgesgran Sun 12-Jun-22 22:26:17

Completely appropriate. Very sorry ? my deepest sympathy.

M0nica Mon 13-Jun-22 13:07:50

I am sorry for your loss, both daughter and husband.

The last thing anyone is thinking about a funeral is what you are wearing. I have never seen funerals as being an event you buy new clothes for, unless you have nothing appropriate.

Puzzled Sat 18-Jun-22 12:05:22

You have suffered two severe losses.
If both DD and DH liked the outfit, it is a tribute to them to wear it.
Quite often, when a member of our club dies, when we attend, a club sweater is worn, as a tribute from the other club members.
It is means of showing that their memory and pleasures are honoured.