School reports

Mallin if that was aimed at me would you care to explain what part of me is interfering?

Mallin

Gawd! Interfering old bat.

What a nasty, unnecessary comment, everyone else has managed to put their opinions politely.

Agreed, rafichagran

Whoever Mallin’s comment was aimed at it was unnecessarily rude.

Reports are just an impression. I've received a report that said my child was slightly above average in a subject. Eventually it was identified that this child had a serious learning disability and had learned to disguise it to save face at school. Teachers had no clue. It was only when the child talked to me about their distress in the subject that I identified what was going on and set about getting official diagnosis and confirmation.

My early school reports often said I didn't make an effort, leading to telling off by parents. I became immune to that. I was actually gifted and bored. I enjoyed high school more and topped classes then.

Talk to the child and hear their thoughts. It will tell you a lot more than a school report.

My daughter read all the report aloud the other day. I collected the report so was there at the time but I regard it as a lovely gesture not a right. I’ve now promised to buy a good report pressie.

My grandfather once offered me a shilling if I ever got a report that didn’t say I was a chatterbox, I never got the shilling.

Come to think of it, that shows he saw my reports, which were on paper in those days. My grandchildren’s reports are online.

Grandparents usually have the advantage of experience of life and can take the “long view”. Parents can be very dismayed at a negative school report for their child but in an ideal world they can share and discuss their concerns with the grandparent/s . I have 5 gc ranging from 23 - 7 yrs, lots of issues over the years as one would expect. I wouldn’t expect to read a school report but would help/advise if the parent asked. This may be easier for me having 3 daughters - we share everything, but I know their partners would not, lol one is a head teacher anyway!

How did you get on? Did you get an explanation you were happy with?

Good grief Grandma70s, don't be so sensitive!!!! It's up to your sons and GC whether they want to show you their reports or not, and really - so what? You know from your son how GS is doing, do you really need to see it in writing?
I've seen some of my GC's reports, and I get general feedback from DD about how they are doing, that's good enough for me.
Just because you and your parents did things a certain way, doesn't make it LAW! Just get over it, and enjoy talking about other things with your GC, and if they choose to share stuff about school then great, if not, that is their right.

I cannot remember any of my children's school reports saying anything we didn't already know or had not discussed at a parents evening.

TBF DoNotDisturb Grandma70s has never suggested that the way her parents did things makes it law or that she has any right to see her GS's school report.

Blimey.
The child will be having a work interview and people will still be popping up to say how unreasonable grandma70 is!