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Relative moving within three doors!

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Dorset Wed 13-Jul-22 16:57:29

We have recently decided to move to another County, a much quieter area. We have been putting a lot of time, money and effort into looking at all the areas within that county, over the 18 months. Our buyer lost patience after three months as we are buying a new build which had paperwork issues. It is one of four and we are the first to buy, we have paid the most as it has two parking spaces and a larger garden. The paperwork is now all sorted, and we have found a buyer (short chain), so all looks positive. We visited again to pick new kitchen/bathroom/tiles recently, and Doctors. We are so excited. However today my husbands close relative, who lives two hours from this development, has phoned and said they have decided to buy one of the others (all our semi’s). AIBU to not want family so near, 20/30 minutes away, but right next door! I haven’t heard them say they want to move, they never go out exploring areas but seem to want what we have chosen. Am I just being a miserable old so and so. Up until now we phone each other and live 300 miles apart. We are never close enough to visit. I feel so guilty for now not feeling excited about our new home and my husband happens to feel the same ? advice please…

kwest Tue 23-Aug-22 17:21:17

Good fences make good neighbours.

kevincharley Tue 23-Aug-22 17:58:08

Nightmare! I feel for you, I can't think of anything worse. Good luck.

Quichette Tue 23-Aug-22 18:57:05

Our oldest daughter lives a stone's throw from us. She comes to see us several times a week and helps with the garden, putting out recycling boxes, etc. We take in packages and I do a bit of cooking, clothes repair, and hand washing of sweaters and such for her. We generally don't visit her unannounced but welcome her any time. Nice symbiosis, actually. Our other daughter lives 150K distant so we see her much less frequently.

Saetana Tue 23-Aug-22 22:37:18

Why has this popped up again in the daily email when the OP was back in July? Doesn't appear they have been back to comment since then...

biglouis Tue 23-Aug-22 23:01:40

I have one nephew living about 30 minutes walk away (he does not drive) and the rest of my family are in another city 35 miles away (all drivers). That suits me fine as I dont want to be over invested with any of my family but they are there when I need them. Nephew who lives near comes over once a week and would come more often if I asked him to but I seldom do. We each have our own agenda. I dont want to be too closely involved with either relatives or neighbours. My choice.

Margomar Fri 26-Aug-22 19:45:07

Why are (some) people so hostile to the idea of family living near each other? . Locking back gates etc in case they become too familiar … oh dear. They could all get on fine and be mutually supportive. Here in South Wales it’s pretty normal to live in the same street as your family.