Do you have a ‘helpful’ husband?

dolphindaisy

Mine is adamant pushing the trolley round the supermarket is his job, problem is, he goes off to check the beer and I'm left with arms full of things I've picked off the shelves, trying to find him and swearing under my breath

Hmm.. been reading my playbook eh!????snap!

Yep fold and roll knickers colour coded for quick getaway! And bras also doubled over and stacked on edges also colour filed! Looks great and no shocks for anyone rummaging!?

I feel quite guilty now as I just shove knickers and socks into (separate) drawers (I do pair the socks first though) Does it really matter ? no-one else ever goes in my knicker draw!!

It’s surprisingly therapeutic though, pandapatch - have a go! [grin{

Yes, I'm another knicker folder (and roller) a la Marie Kondo. Sadly, my knickers are all of the Bridget Jones type these days so folding them and putting them into one of those compartmented box thingies means I don't have to rummage through a drawer full of underwear, tights and socks. I'm quite proud of the fact that my 7 year old DGD loves "the tidy technique" - although she can get at least 3 pairs of her knickers in each compartment! Sorry - I've digressed somewhat from the original post about helpful husbands - although mine does fold his underwear as well.

I had a helpful husband.
I didn't always appreciate it when he pegged out the washing differently to me and tidied up behind me, was obsessive about cleaning the draining board, etc.
One day, while I was at work, he 'helpfully' buggered off! Now I have to do it all myself! (No, I didn't want him to go).

Tell him to do something really helpful and not mess up you laundry which you can easily do yourself. OR show him how it needs to be done. Never too old to learn new tricks!

You'd think this thread was about grandchildren!

Things are different now to what they were when I married in 1946.
The only time my husband did anything in the house was when I was laid up with a bad back. The children never forgot the burned sausages, lumpy mash and no gravy. He said it made him realise that women did more than drink cups of tea and listen to Mrs Dales diary.

We were going out.
DH, "I've shut all the windows but not locked them."
Me, "Why?"
DH, "For security when we're out!"
Me, "I meant why didn't you lock them?"
DH, " I thought you'd want to do that to check I'd shut the windows!!!!!"

Helpful?!?

I don’t care how he does anything. Anything is better than ME doing it!
#lazygran

Plus while he does whatever he has a great SOH. My late mum used to say he could make a cat laugh. Much more important in my book!
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Mr H. does all the cooking, gardening, local shopping, dog walking and bathing, loads & unloads the dishwasher, and shampoos the carpets. We share the day to day cleaning and I do the laundry - or rather I should say I wash it, dry it then leave it sitting in laundry baskets until I/we need something to wear! Sometimes it's there for weeks! We do any DIY together. I can't complain about anything he does he's very thorough and a great cook. I don't know what I'd do without him.

His mother waited on him hand and foot as she really believed that was a woman's purpose in life. She was shocked one day when he arrived home from work and made himself a cup of tea. Apparently I should have jumped up and done that and had a meal ready for him as well! That was never the way things were in our house.

I do laundry (about which I'm dead picky) and most of the cooking; DH is tidier than me and good at cleaning. He does the bins too, and most of the garden. It's a reasonable trade off.

My beloved died nearly 2 years ago. I miss him. I miss his cooking, his great plans, his love of people and places, his kindness. Most of all, his putting up with me and bringing me a cup of tea every morning since I first had morning sickness.
What don't I miss? He would wear a newly knitted sweater to pick brambles. He once washed my white bras with a yellow duster. Oblivious. He hated to "get a man in" and would promise to do almost anything himself ? ☺️
How I miss him.

My friend's DH isn't helpful at all. Fortunately mine is, even if I have to ask sometimes!

OMG! I am GREEN with envy! My husband was the golden child in his family and his older sister basically spoilt him. Since retirement he has got really lazy. I do everything in our house and for him (my fault I suppose). He has limited mobility but I never have had a cup of tea in bed from him. I pointed out that ‘no-one had offered to make me a drink’, despite being busy all day. Took until the next day before he finally made me a coffee. ?

My daughter has a doggy knapsack and a bike basket for her elderly Cavachon. He goes everywhere with the family.

After Christmas one year I asked my late DH to go to the shops to get some basics as we were running low. He came back with pickled walnuts and artichokes!

Exactly the same here ?

Mine has absolutely no idea about laundry but is willing to do anything else except clean toilets. However, I have just found a lovely cleaner so very happy at the moment. I cook and he does the dishes.

Ha ha. Sounds familiar. Most of the time yes, my husband is usefull and helpful but at times when my physical health is not good due to flu, covid19 or any operation or after having my children to then come back home - nightmare - pots and plates in the sink, and things put back in the wrong places in the kitchen - sure I have lived to tell the tale and cleared up once been back on track once again - could just be a mans thing with them thinking to themselves - WHY BOTHER WITH THAT BEING A WOMANS JOB. Old fashioned attitude then with my own husband who is 72 but I do hear of some men of an older age who are so very tidy. LIFE.

PollyDolly

My OH is quite good with the laundry actually. He always. turns his jeans inside out for washing and I educated him in doing the same with tee shirts, sweaters, leggings etc. He quite likes doing the ironing although he hasn't quite mastered the art of controlling a viscose dress with a mind of its own. He makes an excellent job of stripping and remaking the bed. However, he does not dust or polish but he will run the hoover over the carpets so I can't complain. Might start hiring him out......any takers?

You are describing my hubby to a T. Food shopping can also be added to the list.

We share most household tasks but I largely do the laundry and DH sorts the garden. We both worked full time prior to retirement and agreed to do this. However on the occasion I needed him to hang the washing out it was as if he had never seen a washing line in his life! Shirts hanging by the collars and trousers by their hems! I told him that if you wear the item on the top you hang it from the bottom and anything worn on the bottom you hang it from the top ? easy !!

kathmaggie I’ve never heard of that advice about hanging things out. Is the logic that the way of hanging is to minimise ironing? What do you do about dresses? If they have full skirts it might be best to hang them from the top?

singingnutty

kathmaggie I’ve never heard of that advice about hanging things out. Is the logic that the way of hanging is to minimise ironing? What do you do about dresses? If they have full skirts it might be best to hang them from the top?

I peg dresses under the armpits to avoid peg marks.