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Feeling let down

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Icandoit Fri 11-Aug-23 08:24:42

Feeling let down, my DH is in hospital today for quite an obtrusive procedure. It is a day bed I know however it is quite traumatising for him. Our DD although knows about the procedure today has not been in contact with DH or myself to say 'good luck' or anything. I feel very let down with this in that she has totally forgotten (one again). She is a busy mum and has a very demanding job however family in my opinion is always at the top of the list.

grannyro Sun 13-Aug-23 16:06:18

I can empathise with you. My family are all grown up now but I still always remind them about uncles/aunts/other family birthdays etc. It isn't that they need to send a gift or anything but my sister or brother would be very hurt if they didn't at least get a text! It drives me mad. Have people just lost the ability to remember things or make notes of birthdays etc? You would think, in this high tech age it was easier to remember things but obviously not!

Primrose53 Sun 13-Aug-23 17:31:31

I just can’t understand why adult children have to be reminded of family stuff. I never remind my kids. They have birthday dates on their phones and if one of us has to go to hospital we tell them. It’s up to them to remember.

Let’s face it, most younger people are glued to their phones anyway. My nieces can always manage to ring or text their Dad if they need money or want him to childmind but couldn’t care less about him otherwise.

Primrose53 Sun 13-Aug-23 17:35:13

I have another friend whose son got into dreadful gambling debts which she paid off and she buys him nearly new cars every few years. He rang while I was at hers and I said I would leave and give them chance to chat and she said “oh no he will be ringing to ask for money or something because that’s the only time he calls me.” I felt very sad for her. 😢

Aveline Sun 13-Aug-23 19:05:18

I had a quiet sad time to myself this week. My new car was hit by another car in a car park. Absolutely not my fault. I was driving along when a big car just reversed straight into the side of me. Nice people rushed up to say they were witnesses and everyone was very kind. The other driver apologised and things are going along with the insurance company. However, I was very shaken up and upset. My new and already dear little car is in a state.
Would it have been asking much for my DD to contact me or even text something sympathetic from her holiday? She must know about it as kind SiL was texting.
I know. I'm just feeling sorry for myself and gearing up for complicated travel over the next few weeks.

Gami1216 Sun 13-Aug-23 19:38:57

I am new to this website and see a lot of initials everywhere in the posts. Forgive me but…….What does DH and DD stand for?

dizzygran Sun 13-Aug-23 19:55:52

I have had a few invasive rather unpleasant procedures DH came with me must admit AC didn't pay too much attention although they are both very caring and supportive. DD had a nasty procedure but didn't say anything until after as she didn't want to worry me. I think they expect us to have more medical input as we get older. I don't for a minute think this is because they don't care. I know from experience that when we had a few medical emergencies they were there immediately. Please don't think you DD doesn't care. She is a busy mum and she might be horrified to feel she has let you down. Hope you are ok.

Georgesgran Sun 13-Aug-23 20:00:21

Welcome Gami1216.

You can look up the list of acronyms, but it’s really easy when the first D is dear or darling so:-

DH - husband
DOH - other half
DD - daughter
DGC - grandchildren
DGS or DGS - grandson/daughter
AC are adult children

All fairly simple when you think about it?
Hope that helps and you enjoy reading and adding your views.

pandapatch Sun 13-Aug-23 22:52:41

Glad to see your husband is home. Hope you have been in contact with your daughter and are feeling a bit better.

JRTW2 Mon 14-Aug-23 00:33:48

Agree. They can always find time to message when they need something or a babysitter

ileea Mon 14-Aug-23 00:50:32

I add my daughter/sons and anyone else that needs to know about certain dates to my google calendar so it will pop up as a notification.

Pippa22 Mon 14-Aug-23 06:46:24

I cannot understand why this site posters use acronyms as others don’t. It’s really confusing and why can’t posters just type the actual word it would make Gransnet better and easier to read without acronyms.

Aveline Mon 14-Aug-23 06:56:19

As a longtime GNer I'm quite used to them. Most of us are.

NotSpaghetti Mon 14-Aug-23 10:06:53

I am used to them - but still dislike them - and don't use them myself (apart from occasionally OP).
I can't abide that everyone is "Dear" or "Darling" automatically!

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 14-Aug-23 11:00:37

I agree NS. I find the acronyms really silly and irritating and never use them, other than (out of laziness) OP

NotSpaghetti Mon 14-Aug-23 11:02:22

Yes, laziness GSM- OP saves scrolling back to see who it was!

Silvergirl Mon 14-Aug-23 11:16:15

I can’t stand them either. Why use Darling or Dear at all? Sometimes DS or DSil is used and you don’t know if it applies to Son or Sister.