Am I wrong to think this is rude ?

I think this is rude, but its probably accidental. We used to be on chatting over the fence terms with our neighbour, but wouldnt have invited her round, just as she didnt invite us. We wanted to be friendly, but were not actual friends. She was immediately next door. I personally wouldnt shout across a garden, or if I did I would include the intermediary neighbour in the conversation, otherwise its just rude in my opinion. I would put up a fence or trellis, but I would explain to the neighbours first that I was doing it to have beautiful scented climbers near the house and politely but firmly say that I hope that they can still have nice chats further down the garden.

It will stop now it’s dark and cold and wet!

Definitely a fence or blind. I’d put one up anyway even if this didn’t happen because I really value my privacy. We bought our house because you can’t see any neighbours at all. Trees, trees and more trees !

If they are such good friends, why don't they simply walk to around to each others' house?

You could just tell them how you feel. Are you afraid to offend, I wonder. If you know a smart lad who could install a sensing device; whenever they get at it, either a light goes on, or they get weird sounds. This might sound really silly, but how asking, " have you 2 always had long chats across my yard/garden, I wonder, or did it all start during COVID? This could be a subtle hint, even a deterrent.

Yorklass23, I wouldn't confront them about it - as they've probably done it for ages and would just think it 'uppity' if there were comments.

I don't have that problem here, yet, still, I have a lovely rose pergola outside my back door. It's 2.5 metres high, clad with trellis and covered in climbers. I can sit outside in my PJs or vest and shorts - and nobody can see me. My security light is beyond it.

If I were Gangan 2 - I'd have several pergolas, a nice long walkway!

If I were Gangan 2 - I'd have several pergolas, a nice long walkway!

And a not so nice load of maintenance! 😂

merlotgran, well, I do trim the plants - but there is trellis with artificial greenery - or maybe screening with no plants?

I live in a terraced house and have done for the past 30+ years, but maybe we have larger gardens and we certainly have larger fences! Which is a good thing as most of us own dogs ! My own neighbours each side occasionally pop their heads over the fence and say hello, not often, as it makes our dogs bark, but they’ve never had full on conversations with each other across our garden and whilst I don’t think it’s rude I do think it’s odd and an invasion of privacy ! No advice on what to do, BUT I’d open my door, windows etc whenever I want to, put my radio on louder and dress how I like !

PS You’re not a grump ! I’d hate it xx

The first thing we did when we moved into our current house was to replace the falling down fence between our house and next door. Our neighbours are absolutely lovely but we didn’t want a communal garden! On the other side we just planted shrubs because that’s what we wanted to do. But we do try to make sure said shrubs don’t cause work for our elderly neighbours. We put film on the conservatory windows that look onto theirs which means we both get privacy. We’re detached so there is too much space for neighbours to chat to each other without bellowing!

I think this is my way forward, I am also switching off the outside light when it starts .

I'm lucky - or maybe unlucky, depending on your point if view - to live down a long drive in the middle of the countryside with no neighbours within a quarter of a mile. What you describe sounds horrendous, quite unthinkable, I'd hate it!

I have a variation of the situation.
Trampolines both sides right by the fences. The children shout and call very loudly across my garden to one another.

Gangan2 stick with your dressing gown, nothing wrong with that.

Gangan2

I think this is my way forward, I am also switching off the outside light when it starts .

Or you could get more lights, ones that shine into their eyes and dazzle them 😜

Yes, now I am just being wicked 😈 😁

I think the answer is simple really. Roller blinds for windows and door plus a beaded curtain for door so you still have privacy when it's warm and you want your door open. The curtain stops flying pests too.

Baggs

Gangan2

I think this is my way forward, I am also switching off the outside light when it starts .

Or you could get more lights, ones that shine into their eyes and dazzle them 😜

Yes, now I am just being wicked 😈 😁

😂 YES. And also add some noisy wind chimes at either side of your back wall. 😈