I’m only in my mid-50’s but I look after 3 of my pre-school GC during the week while my AC work, and also do lots of weekend babysitting.
I absolutely love them, it’s been such a joy to have them and I realise not every grandma has that. I do cherish my time with them, but…fuck me I am exhausted. Last night I looked after my youngest GC who is 1 while DD and SIL had a night out. I couldn’t settle her until 10pm then she was up every 90 minutes. Which is know DD will go through - but she’s 26 years younger than I am and has a partner. I’m widowed, I have a partner but he hasn’t met my GC yet - my AC don’t want him to and I absolutely respect their wishes.
I feel like I’m gonna nod off any second soon and I messaged DD who said she’s taking the opportunity to clean her house and her DH is having a ‘well deserved lie in’. I’m trying not to be annoyed - why can’t they pick DGD up and he forgo a lie in while she cleans? I wouldn’t be so bothered if I didn’t also mind her 2 days in the week on top of other GC and do a lot of weekends too. I get having babies is hard but I don’t understand why a couple have a baby then want the exact same social life as before.
I don’t know how to tell them it’s all too much now, and I’m only gonna get older. I feel like my easiness with helping is taken advantage of and I’m seen as a silly, lonely widow who is thrilled of the company. Which I mostly am - but the sleepless nights, the screaming, nappies etc. it’s too much. I still work and my only days off which I should be spending with my BF are monopolised by my AC.
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