To be blindsided by DNA test?.

Perhaps you should keep your personal animosities towards myself away from vulnerable people's threads

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Suggesting that someone may be responsible for her son's addiction, and that he suffered from childhood trauma is unnecessarily cruel yes it is Doodledog.

Posters questioning and/or disagreeing with your posts has nothing to do with personal animosity VS. If it were, there'd be no discussion and no debate.

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Thank you all.

Actually you are twisting my words which may cause the upset that you wish to avoid

Comments are being removed from this thread so I would suggest this stops now and people focus on OP instead

VioletSky

Addressing some of the comments:

Suffering with addiction doesn't equate to "liar". Addiction usually manifests due the person having unresolved trauma

To OP:

I would take what he is saying at face value and get yourself some help to cope with this news. It will be difficult for your son too, especially as he must be able to do the maths and know that your teenage years must have been troubling for you

Drug addicts are liars. Anyone involved in their world will confirm this.

VS Go back to the post Germanshepherdsmum made on Sat 16-Dec-23 10:21:56, to be found on page 1 of this thread.

In that thread GSM, who is a solicitor, shows quite conclusively that the tale the son is telling is impossible because if the way our legal system works and Heir Hunters work.

There is absolutely no reason why the OP should consider her son's story as anything other than a tissue of lies.

Thank you MOnica.

Once towards the end of my blood father’s life I left my name and address with telephone number on his mantelpiece, as I live in another country and he lived alone. When the time came the coroner contacted me. If your son visited what he thought was his father, he may have left his contact address with him and the police/coroner may have pasted this on to other people.
Of course the heir hunters were quickly on the trail but they never asked for me for a DNA test.

Reading through a few websites it appears that heir hunters do do DNA tests now. Especially if there was no marriage or the father was not on the birth certificate

Links?

VioletSky

Reading through a few websites it appears that heir hunters do do DNA tests now. Especially if there was no marriage or the father was not on the birth certificate

Heir hunters cannot do DNA tests without peoples consent it's impossible they need a sample of sputum. They work the family tree back and if they do not find siblings they look at cousins.
If two people use as others have said the same testing company , you will get matches with near relatives whom you have never heard of.It happened personally to me. I was contacted from Australia to see if I had any information on a relative who had obviously had an illegitimate child in Australia.Through the Ancestry website
.Of course there is usually no father named on a birth certificate nowadays but in other centuries the father was named and shamed and there can be marriages recorded , but women have affairs within marriage. That is why the Ancient Greeks and president days Jewish familys have a matriarchal system.

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blanchardsltd.co.uk/when-is-a-relative-not-an-heir/

Buttonjugs
Things are not a always as straightforward as some like to think. My heart goes out to you, the world is not black and white and sometimes issues are blurred. God bless.

Is one enough?

There are also news articles stating that remains have (awfully) been exhumed by heir hunters for DNA tests

Times change I guess

Having read your post carefully OP it’s obvious that any of your relationships could have resulted in your pregnancy, even tho you were fairly sure it was one particular man, you could well be wrong.Does it really matter to you? It was a long time ago and presumably this guy had no input in your life after that time.It may well matter to your son of course as he may want to know who his Father really is.
The old saying it’s a wise child that knows its own Father comes to mind.Sadly you don’t get on with your son due to lifestyle choices, and really there’s nothing you can do other than put the past behind you.

VioletSky

blanchardsltd.co.uk/when-is-a-relative-not-an-heir/

???

VioletSky

Is one enough?

There are also news articles stating that remains have (awfully) been exhumed by heir hunters for DNA tests

Please provide links to these articles.

You will need to read it GSM

I have read the link to Blanchards and saw no mention of DNA.

What does it take to be a heir hunter: We speak to Danny Curran www.thisismoney.co.uk/money/smallbusiness/article-9083133/What-does-heir-hunter-speak-Danny-Curran.html?ito=native_share_article-nativemenubutton

Germanshepherdsmum

I have read the link to Blanchards and saw no mention of DNA.

I screenshot the exact paragraph for you, it is there