lippyqueen
I am so sorry to read your post & send belated Birthday 🎁 wishes.
Reading other responses I am amazed that others seem to think that it’s the way of the world 🌍 for a Mother to go down the list of who is important!
That is plain ludicrous thinking .in my mind.
And that is not helpful to the OP who is feeling distressed about the situation.
Again, it is also very often the Woman who will buy the cards or remind of Birthdays ,write it on a calendar etc.
My own Son , never forgets my BD and in that I am not shouting from the rooftops that he remembers & arrives with arms full of flowers etc etc . Far from it, this year in fact he visited the week before the date & as I know he often forgets a card , I cheekily told him to look through the accumulated cards I had left out & take one ,all said in jest, I had even mentioned to ddx2 that I was doing this as it is well known that DS doesn’t send me ( or anyone ) a card .
The aforementioned cards were ones ,either myself or DH had purchased over time for my MIL ,the accumulation due to DH forgetting asking me to buy or buying another & as I have no use for them they just sit there collecting dust until the next year ,when I again remind DH don’t buy another .
The collection was both BD & MD as my BD & MD are extremely close a day after each other in fact, this year but always close.
He looked through chose one & promptly forgot it ! I received a card for neither day despite ‘Cardgate’
It wasn’t until 3 days later at night out I’d arranged for us with him & GC that he presented me with both flowers & chocolates. Which was lovely, but hey he lives literally 5 mins away around the corner.
I accept this is how he is but it doesn’t stop wishing he was a tad more thoughtful.
And in your case Lippyqueen with your DS being so far away I feel your disappointment, hopefully your DD & family made it a lovely day .
. I remind mine at least a week before 
. X