AIBU to feel this awful mixture of emotions?

Of course you are sad and worried about your DD , it is devastating. My DD had two miscarriages followed by an ectopic pregnancy, very traumatic times. She is now the loving mum to two adorable little girls. First child was a complicated pregnancy - almost lost her and she had to be brought into the world early, second daughter straight forward! Hang in there , your DD needs your strength.
Enjoy your wine and and well done to your DP for cooking you a meal and doing his best. 💐💐

Just want to add my sympathy too, what a distressing situation with conflicting emotions for you and your lovely husband. Such kindness on this thread, GN at its very best.

HousePlantQueen
You are so right. There has been such kindness and empathy shown to me and it really has helped me. I needed it. Thank you everyone

DP took me out for a lovely roast on Sunday as well as cooking for me Saturday. He’s a good man even though he doesn’t always know the right things to say.

I am feeling happier for him and his daughter than I was when I started the thread, although still feel so bad for my daughter (still unaware of that news)
After being quite pragmatic on Friday, she says she has felt very flat over the weekend (naturally), but her and her husband have just taken time out for themselves which has been good.
She’s managed to get her boss to agree to working from home this week and she said getting back into that routine has helped. Unfortunately she has had a letter and phone call regarding antenatal appointments. She had been told by EPU that her miscarriage had been added to the system, meaning that she would cease to have any further correspondance. Well that obviously didn’t work and is just an extra kick in the teeth.
My line of work puts me in contact with EPU and maternity services so I have a good mind to ask them to think about reviewing the system to prevent this happening to others.

It's such a sensitive subject isn't it . I'd just had my second ectopic pregnancy around 28 years ago , when one of my sisters had just found out she was expecting her third child. I remember smiling and saying congratulations. Then crying my eyes out when I got home . I really hope the next pregnancy goes well

Nothing to add to the nice words already said but sending a hug and to say it’s perfectly normal to feel conflicting emotions
You will your husband sounds nice too he’s trying to comfort and be happy at the same time
Fingers crossed for her future pregnancies

Lovemylife, I really identified with those ‘worried sick’ feelings. Every time the phone rang when dd was newly pregnant for the 3rd time, I would absolutely dread answering, in case she was in tears on the other end again.

Once again, 🤞and 🙏 for your dd, flaxseed x.

Intensive chemo brought on early menopause so DD1 is unable to have children.
Many friends of hers had their first child in their 40 s so there is still plenty of time for your daughter. I wish her well and hope that next time all will be well.

Have been in a similar situation with two of my DDs. It was hard for everyone. But luckily they have a good relationship and were able to support each other. And all was out in the open - it must be hard for you having to keep information confidential.

silverlining58 I am so sorry for your daughter.

My DD now knows that DP’s daughter is pregnant. She feels a bit indifferent to the news. She said it will feel worse if the baby arrives and she’s still not pregnant, but said ‘we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it’
She doesn’t want her stepsister to know about her miscarriage (they don’t see each other much)
DD had a serious mental health crisis a few years ago and with lots of therapy and a whole lot of work on herself, is very self aware and knows when things are getting a bit much, so she has started counselling through her work to ensure she doesn’t undo all of that hard work.
We had lunch together end of last week and she was pretty good all things considered.
I just pray she goes onto have a healthy pregnancy soon 🙏

Flaxseed thankyou. She is young and has time. Good luck.