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Nanny or Grandma

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Sharr22 Tue 03-Dec-24 12:47:33

AIBU that as a new grandparents, who is refered to as Nanny by my kids and myself, my mother also wants to be called Nanny?

Back story she has 6 grand children already and 2 great grandchildren, from my children, her grandchildren
On a side note she also refers to my step dad of 53 years as 'Dad', not your dad so it sounds like we're sisters and he's our dad.

henetha Tue 03-Dec-24 23:30:17

I'm Nan, Nanny or Nannykins.
I love it !

Dogmum2 Wed 04-Dec-24 00:37:54

I'm Mamma and my Mum is Mamma to my DD, and Great Mamma to my GS's. Mum is Nanny to her other GD.

No rules, be whatever you want to be or what the children call you.

I love being a Mamma and if i can be half as good as my (maternal) Mamma was i will be happy.

Truthfully i like the idea of all the females in my family being Mamma's (My great Mamma, was Mamma!). A nice tradition to start. My DD has said that in the future (if it happens) she would also like to be known as Mamma and that makes me happy.

harrigran Wed 04-Dec-24 08:32:26

I am Grandma,, wouldn't want to be called Nanny as it sounds like a hired help.

Louella12 Wed 04-Dec-24 08:57:52

Not been a fan of Nanny either.

I'm Grandma to my grandchildren.

As a child I had a Grandma and a Grandma London. For many years I thought everyone had this. Of course one of my grandmas lived in London so that's how it was.

yggdrasil Wed 04-Dec-24 09:05:47

I am Big Granny to one side of my family (I'm not that big, but Little Granny is very small). I am Nanny to the other side.
I didn't choose, the kids did

annodomini Wed 04-Dec-24 09:49:00

In our family grandmothers have always been Grannies. I'm Granny to my DGC, though often they simply call me 'Gran'. Greatgranddaughter calls me 'Ganny' at the moment, but when she can pronounce 'r', I expect that will turn into 'Granny'. My GSs' Irish grandmother is also 'Granny', don't seem to have ever been at all confused.

Aldom Wed 04-Dec-24 10:40:43

I am Grandma to all my grandchildren. Their paternal grandmother, who died a couple of weeks ago, was Granny. My own mother was Nanny to my children and I have to say, she was never mistaken for the hired help. Whatever name our grandchildren call us by is special.

Lovetopaint037 Wed 04-Dec-24 10:50:36

My parents referred to my grandparents as Nan and grandad. My children did the same and then I was Nan but one of my grandsons has taken to call me Nanna. When he texts me he often starts by calling me Nannaaaa like a little boy although he is thirty.

Retroladywriting Wed 04-Dec-24 11:08:38

To begin with I chose Grandma, then my DIL's mum wanted to be Grandma as well. I was told that it would be fine to have two, but I wasn't happy my nose was slightly out of joint, as I'd chosen Grandma first. Then I decided that being called "Nanny" would be an honour as my mum was Nanny and she died just before our GS, her GGS, was born. Perfectly happy with that.

RieW Wed 04-Dec-24 12:05:09

Granma? Nanny is more of a carer to me, with American family.

RieW Wed 04-Dec-24 12:05:53

*grandma ...

Iam64 Wed 04-Dec-24 12:15:03

The Royal Family has Nannie’s RieW

My mum in law was nannie whereas in my family we have grannies

MissAdventure Wed 04-Dec-24 12:49:20

I think the word nanny originates from Wales, possibly, or I read something about dreadlocked warriors, somewhere, back in time.

A granny, here, would be a little old woman with a grey bun.

I'd rather be a dreadlocked warrior. smile

LisaAN Wed 04-Dec-24 12:55:45

My GS calls me nan. My GD used to call me nan but has recently started saying grandmama. No idea where that came from.

dogsmother Wed 04-Dec-24 13:04:57

I waiting to see what my gd says. It will come from her, as a bilingual child with everyone referring to me as something different it could be anything and I really don’t mind. She’s at the babbling stage so something could be imminent!

MissAdventure Wed 04-Dec-24 13:07:14

Oh that's exciting!!
I wonder what she'll pick? smile

Janeea Wed 04-Dec-24 13:16:12

Granny for me, nanny sounds like a goat 🤣

meddijess Wed 04-Dec-24 13:22:06

My late mother was Nana, and when her GGD was born we all decided that I should be Nan. Worked for us.

lizzypopbottle Wed 04-Dec-24 13:22:10

I'm Nana to my three. My grandmothers were both Nanna with their surname to distinguish. My own mother was Nanna to my three and to my sister's two.

GrauntyHelen Wed 04-Dec-24 13:22:55

Is your mother Nanny already if so she continues to be Nanny with the addition of Grand or something As others have said the child will sort it out for itself like my sister did Granpa became Banga

VerbenaGirl Wed 04-Dec-24 13:25:10

I've concluded that everyone just gets called what they want to be called. Yes, it involves duplication - but you find a way round it (adding in a first name or surname for example). If you have a few generations still around or a blended family, it's impossible for everyone to have something unique.

goose1964 Wed 04-Dec-24 13:27:53

I'm granny and both my counterparts are known as grandma. DH is grampy and his counterparts are both Grandad.

LisaP Wed 04-Dec-24 13:28:30

Depends on which child for me…
My Sons children call me Nana and my Daughter’s child calls me Grandma.
Makes no odds really does it?
The other grandmothers are both called Nanny. And great-grandmother is Nan.

Debenezer Wed 04-Dec-24 13:30:08

Could you suggest Nanna to your mother ? A close alternative ?

Lovemylife Wed 04-Dec-24 13:31:01

My mum sadly died two weeks before her first great grandson was born, but I think she would have liked to have been Great Nana. Great Aunt sounds very old though!
My first grandchild is due soon after Christmas, a long awaited for IVF baby, and I don’t mind what I’m called as long as I get lots of baby cuddles🥰