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Nanny or Grandma

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Sharr22 Tue 03-Dec-24 12:47:33

AIBU that as a new grandparents, who is refered to as Nanny by my kids and myself, my mother also wants to be called Nanny?

Back story she has 6 grand children already and 2 great grandchildren, from my children, her grandchildren
On a side note she also refers to my step dad of 53 years as 'Dad', not your dad so it sounds like we're sisters and he's our dad.

suelld Wed 04-Dec-24 13:34:16

I’m Mamgu ( pronounced Mam gi ..hard g ). The Welsh version of Grandma.

Paperlady999 Wed 04-Dec-24 13:36:52

I hated the idea of being called granny …..but as soon as my first grandchild was born, I decided I loved it! So Granny I have been ever since - they are now 20 and 22!

Polly7 Wed 04-Dec-24 13:37:47

Nanna. Nanny. I also get PG. (pauline gran) she made it up 💕

mokryna Wed 04-Dec-24 13:40:43

I prefer Granny. For me Nan is short for a nanny.
In France ‘Nana’ is young girl', 'woman', 'girlfriend', 'wife', and sometimes 'mistress, it made my classes laugh.

mabon1 Wed 04-Dec-24 13:49:04

I'm a Nain (sounds like nine) Welsh for grandma or another is Mamgu. so no rules at all.

pen50 Wed 04-Dec-24 13:49:37

I'm (definitely) Granny - as were my own mother and grandmother! The other grandmother is Gibraltarian and hence Mamma.

My cousins called our mutual grandmother Grandma, which sis and I always thought was a bit suspect.

PuffernutterUK Wed 04-Dec-24 13:50:19

My mother was Dutch and that is "Oma" in Dutch. However my children regularly got confused (as on my wife's side it was "Granny") and started with Gran...and moved to Oma so she was called Groma and it stuck!

aonk Wed 04-Dec-24 13:52:38

I already had 3 grandchildren who called me Grandma before DS and DIL started their family. When their first child was born DIL said her mother wanted to be called Grandma. I said that’s ok, we can both be called Grandma followed by our first names. She said that she wasn’t happy about children using the first name so invented a ridiculous alternative name. It’s babyish but at least the children know who’s who!

Bessieb Wed 04-Dec-24 13:54:15

When my children were young they called my Mom 'Nan' or 'Nanny' and their great grandmother was 'Big Nan'.

MissAdventure Wed 04-Dec-24 13:57:09

That was my only stipulation.
I wasn't going to be called "big" anything. smile

cc Wed 04-Dec-24 14:01:36

shysal

In our family there were Nannys in several generations, differentiated by adding their first or last name or other title, such as Nanny Pig and Nanny Cat according to their animals. Never any confusion. I think 'Grandma' sounds more straight-laced than I wanted to be.

Yes both myself and my DiL's mother are called Nanny, with out first names added.
I wanted to be called Nanny, my mother's mum was called Nanny followed by her surname - which is actually my own first name. It makes me feel a connection to her, she died when I was just 11 and I still feel a such pang when I think of her.

cc Wed 04-Dec-24 14:07:29

Retroladywriting

To begin with I chose Grandma, then my DIL's mum wanted to be Grandma as well. I was told that it would be fine to have two, but I wasn't happy my nose was slightly out of joint, as I'd chosen Grandma first. Then I decided that being called "Nanny" would be an honour as my mum was Nanny and she died just before our GS, her GGS, was born. Perfectly happy with that.

My mum died also just befor our first GC was born, her first GGC. I'm so sad that she missed her, though she did know what her name would be.

Bazza Wed 04-Dec-24 14:08:16

Our first grandchild christened me Barry to the great amusement of my daughters, and now it’s stuck. I think toddlers will call you anything easy to say, it’s up to you whether you correct them or not. I didn’t!

MissAdventure Wed 04-Dec-24 14:11:07

grin
That's lovely, Barry.

Cagsy Wed 04-Dec-24 14:15:59

We’re all Nanny, my Nan was, my Mum was, my sisters and I are and my grandchildren’s maternal GMs are too including a GGM! The only one not is a Nien as she was living in Wales when the first GC was born. It’s very much an affectionate title.

Joan72 Wed 04-Dec-24 14:16:18

My 8 year old and 5 year old grandchildren call me Gee-ma, but my 2 year old has adapted it to suit and calls me Ee-ma as she can’t quite manage the G.

grammargran Wed 04-Dec-24 14:23:25

I’m a Nanima, obviously becoming Nanny over the years. The first of my daughters to produce a grandchild for us married into a Gujerati family and Nanima is the name given to the mother’s mother. The name for the father’s mother is Dadima. The name stuck for all my following grandchildren from two other daughters. Now I have great grandchildren, I’m Nanny plus my name as one of my daughters is now also a Nanima (if you’re still following me!). My husband is Grampy to all after my own father.

Cateq Wed 04-Dec-24 14:23:41

I’m just Granny to my two DGDs. Although my eldest DGD sometimes refers to me as Granny Catherine if she talking about both her Grannies

Summysoom Wed 04-Dec-24 14:29:53

Grandma70s

I’m Grandma, and the other one is Granny. She gave me first choice and I chose Grandma because I was close to my own grandma.

Nanny is a nursemaid (or a female goat!). I find its use for grandmother puzzling. It’s never been used by anybody in our family.

I agree. My friend said that she would never be called nanny. Nanny is the help. grin

Merhaba Wed 04-Dec-24 14:35:11

I like my grandkids to call me Nana Joy.. Other grand mother is called Granmar.. Or Granny.

Bellzy Wed 04-Dec-24 14:35:27

We’re Grauntie and Gruncle, which is lovely!

MissAdventure Wed 04-Dec-24 14:37:47

That's delightful smile
Like fairytale characters.
Gruncle...

NannyMags Wed 04-Dec-24 14:48:45

I am, Big Nanna to two great-Grandchildren. ( I am 4’11 and a size 10/12 ?? ) I am Granna to the newest great-granddaughter (Granny and Nanna combined I think. Nan to the older grandchildren and Nanna to step-grandchildren!

Autumnrose Wed 04-Dec-24 14:56:22

I’ve never understood why some grandmothers are known as Nanny. Surely a nanny is a paid employee?!

Maggiemaybe Wed 04-Dec-24 14:58:11

It makes me laugh every time the grandparent name thread appears (about every 6 months). After several posters have said they’re Nanna or Nanny - perfectly acceptable and traditional grandparent names, particularly up North - down swoop the ill-bred to tell them they’re goats and/or domestic staff. Rude or what? grin

Nanna Maggie here. And proud of it!