DD’s wedding

So pleased for you, Twiglet! GPs have always been kind to me re medication for flights - usually 2mg Diazepam - some for the outward flight and some for the way back.

Thanks for the update- have a lovely time! Win win for everyone!

Smileless2012

twiglet said in her OP that the condition of her house doesn't make it suitable for a pet/house sitter to stay there.

Given the admitted poor condition of the house, coupled with the anxiety, I would suggest that Twiglet sees a GP sooner rather than later. There is something very worrying going on here and I am concerned for her mental health.

Yes!!

Crossstitchfan

Yes!!

Sorry, written in error!

Good luck twiglet! I hope that you have a good time.

twiglet77

I’m really so appreciative of the time so many lovely GNetters have put into sharing their thoughts.

I think the stars are aligned in a rather amazing way. Out walking the dogs a few weeks ago, I met a young woman I’d worked with during Covid, we both did a Saturday shift in a supermarket. I was surprised she was in this village but our very brief chat was just on the lines of “Gosh, didn’t you work at …. ? What sweet dogs!”

Today I browsed the village Facebook page and there is an advert for her newish dog-walking / dog-sitting business, loads of photos. Long phone call, and she’s booked to look after the dogs here, with time for her other walks too. She is happy to do the full week, so I can travel door to door with my other daughter, who is in the same hotel. I won’t need to drive to or from the airport so I can ask the GP for something a lot stronger than Kalms, they’re both evening flights. Having flown only once in the past 20 years, and only a few times ever, I just hope it’s a smooth journey.

It will still be nerve-wracking socially, it may still be hotter than I’ve ever known. It will still be a big hotel, but - it’s air conditioned, I can hide in my room to avoid the sun and perhaps the DGC will be happy indoors, I’ve said I absolutely refuse to watch small boys near a pool or in a crowd. However, they are clearly absolutely thrilled that I’ll be there.

My three AC have generously offered, between them, to pay for the flights and hotel, my outfit, and the dog sitter.

Now I need to get travel insurance, but I’m going to sleep better tonight than I have done for several weeks.

Thank you all. Wish me luck!

Nice update. Thank you.

Good luck!

In effect your dogs are going to be left alone for a week. People popping in to feed and let them out is no substitute for company, even if they have each other. I couldn't leave them. Surprised your daughter didn't think of discussing with you before making her plans. Personally I wouldn't go. She's been with her partner a while and has children so why doesn't she just do have a wedding with them present?

Read the thread Welsh puppy

What a great outcome, twiglet! Enjoy!

keepingquiet

For me there is a difference between a wedding that takes place where the bride and groom may live, and the ones where the wedding is held overseas at a holiday destination.

I am not sure which this is- but I really don't know how I would react if any of my children said they would be getting married abroad, especially as they should consider whether it is convenient for other people to be in attendance.

I'm not sure I would go if I had your anxiety over travelling, or a commitment to animals.

If the wedding is just an extended holiday I wouldn't go, because I find it disrespectful but that's just me maybe?

I wonder why young people get to be so selfish that weddings become all about them, and not the family or social networks to which they belong.

By all means marry abroad if you want, but don't expect people to put themselves out finanically or otherwise, to be there. It all seems upside down to me.

You wonder why young people get to be so selfish that weddings become all about them? But a wedding IS all about the bride and groom! Whatever makes you think it isn’t?

Because they live in a community where others will support and encourage them, as well as helping them celebrate.

I was at a 50th wedding anniversary lately- the groom gave a small speech in which he remembered the sermon the priest gave, in which he said that although it was 'their' day, the marriage would only succeed with the help of the people who were there around them to help them celebrate before the hard work really started.

The groom then went on to thank everyone in the room that had been there on the day for all their help and support, without which the marriage would not have lasted the 50 years it has. I was quite touched that he had remembered those words...

I think this is what I was trying to say but rather awkwardly, that a wedding maybe about them, but a marriage certainly isnt...we do not live in isolation from each other.

Maybe I'm just very old fashioned in this regard.