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Sorry you are a poor example of a grandparent nothing would stop me going to my grandchild in any circumstances never mind only 20 miles away . I do several journeys of 20 miles every week just because it suits me.

I appreciate you are on holiday but really a taxi could be paid for if you didn’t want to drive if your partner didn’t want to come that would be up to him, leave him there, you can get back when grandsons is safe , reschedule the damn meal who cares about it, weren’t you too upset to eat it anyway!

As for Easter I wouldn’t want to spend it with you either I’d feel very let down

Someone hd to stay with him, Baggs.

If a parent was detained at work and the grandparent who was the emergency contact couldn't be bothered then it would be down to a teacher to stay, perhaps send for an ambulance and escort him to hospital.

Sorry, but I needed an ambulance when I broke my ankle as there was no way I could have got to the car.

As a clinician I couldn’t disagree more. A possible fracture is always a potential limb-threatening situation clinically speaking. Bone marrow leakage, infection, hematomas, travelling clots are all possible, and the risk level should be decided by trained medical professionals aided by imaging. It’s an emergency without a doubt.

Couldn’t disagree more with Baggs about the nature and danger of the broken ankle.

I don't think, by your words/phrasing, that you're in the UK -
Medical room
Co-workers
Only one week paid leave

Basically from first phone call from the school to her (then me when she didn’t answer) and her getting to the school was only about 2.5 hours.

Only about two and a half hours??
Poor child. The ultimate responsibility is the mother's and she needs a better back-up system, which I appreciate is difficult, but that is not the fault of the school. Someone would have had to be responsible for him, for two and a half hours.! You must have been aware of all this when you refused to go.
The hospital should have notified her immediately and that needs chasing up; this was an emergency, and she needs to recruit some more reliable friends closer to home.

The original poster was allowed to say no
She’d got her own day planned

These posts and threads show the misogyny in our society.

The school and our emergency services left the kid in pain for 2.5hours because of austerity

JaneJudge

The original poster was allowed to say no
She’d got her own day planned

These posts and threads show the misogyny in our society.

In what way exactly?

Grandmother is the emergency contact. The person to be contacted in an emergency if the parent is unavailable.
In what way is that misogynistic?

JaneJudge

The school and our emergency services left the kid in pain for 2.5hours because of austerity

austerity??

Because of the cuts to the ambulance service?
I am told DAIlY I can’t get students having tonic clinic seizures in ambulances and their parents will have to take them to a&e. They used to jus be attended to and given rescue medication and stayed with. People young and old must be dying unnecessarily because of this

JaneJudge

Because of the cuts to the ambulance service?
I am told DAIlY I can’t get students having tonic clinic seizures in ambulances and their parents will have to take them to a&e. They used to jus be attended to and given rescue medication and stayed with. People young and old must be dying unnecessarily because of this

A child would need to be accompanied by an appropriate adult, the logical one is the emergency contact.

Simples.

Not here, ambulance service is on its knees. They aren’t waiting for appropriate people to emerge
Simples

And misogynistic because we are just relying on women to go to emergency situations with their children/grandchildren. It’s ridiculous

We know now the bio father had died but all other ‘dads’ aren’t held responsible, just the Gran in this instance

Be kind

The grandmother has a husband albeit not her daughter’s father. He was there when all this was going on.

For all her excuses, grandmother could have called a taxi to get to her grandson’s school. She was only 20 miles away.

I’d like to know if at any time in the two and half hours between the school first trying to reach the lad’s mother and when she was able to get away from work to pick him up, whether the grandmother actually bothered to call her grandson to ask how he was.

Grandmother is the emergency contact.
Her husband may or may not be the daughter’s father, but he is not listed as a contact. The father of the children is not alive. Exactly what “men” in this situation are getting a pass in favor of women bashing? Gransnet indeed has a problem with misogyny but it’s more than a stretch to say this is the thread that illustrates it. The OP happens to be a woman who simply chose not to be there for her daughter’s child in need. Pretty sure the responses would be the same if a father posted the OP.

I still don’t understand how the daughter is wrong for choosing not to prioritize her mum on Easter, but the OP is fine for prioritizing dinner and her holiday over the grandchild. What makes the OP entitled to her daughter’s Easter Sunday? The daughter is every bit as entitled as her mum to choose how she uses her free time.

BlessedArt

Grandmother is the emergency contact.
Her husband may or may not be the daughter’s father, but he is not listed as a contact. The father of the children is not alive. Exactly what “men” in this situation are getting a pass in favor of women bashing? Gransnet indeed has a problem with misogyny but it’s more than a stretch to say this is the thread that illustrates it. The OP happens to be a woman who simply chose not to be there for her daughter’s child in need. Pretty sure the responses would be the same if a father posted the OP.

I still don’t understand how the daughter is wrong for choosing not to prioritize her mum on Easter, but the OP is fine for prioritizing dinner and her holiday over the grandchild. What makes the OP entitled to her daughter’s Easter Sunday? The daughter is every bit as entitled as her mum to choose how she uses her free time.

Excellent response.

If I ever ignored needs - I'd expect to be ignored in return.

What a sad and pathetic thread.
Lame excuses, selfish attitudes, a total empathy bypass for a working mum by her own mother who she might have expected to be the one person she could rely on.
Yes, the mum should have had a Plan B for her emergency contact if her job makes it impossible to drop everything at a moment’s notice and I hope she has rethought her emergency contact numbers but any breakdown in their relationship lies fair and square at Gran’s door. There are a lot of bridges to be built.

JaneJudge

And misogynistic because we are just relying on women to go to emergency situations with their children/grandchildren. It’s ridiculous

We know now the bio father had died but all other ‘dads’ aren’t held responsible, just the Gran in this instance

No-one has mentioned fathers have they?
🤔

Grandfather is not the biological grandfather.

You’ve summed it up perfectly RosieandherMaw. Sad indeed.

I would have gone. You still would have had all the rest of the holiday.

JaneJudge

Not here, ambulance service is on its knees. They aren’t waiting for appropriate people to emerge
Simples

I have absolutely no idea what you mean.

The school could not allow the child to go off in an ambulance, if one was to be available, and to go to A&E on their own without an accompanying adult. The school is in loco parentis.

I think my parents might have reacted like this, but my in-laws would have crawled over hot coals if any of the children needed them

Maybe in the future, you could let your daughter and the school know, in advance, what dates you cannot fulfill your duty as an emergency contact so that someone can take on the very important responsibility in your absence?