Posting holiday pics on line

Tallulah I m with you completely, I understand and I d feel the same It hasn’t happened to me I ve always been including in the photos on social media but I d be a bit surprised if I was removed, a bit mean, but yes I reckon she wants to be seen as having a perfect time with husband and kids and not want to admit that she ‘needed’ help OR could she be thinking her own mother might be a bit put out (if she has one of course)

Ilovedogs22

I wouldn't post my jollyday pics online. Why! for goodness sake?🤔
If I did, it would cause such a furore because of MrIlovedogs wearing his bright orange budgie-smugglers.
It is a sight that's certainly not for the faint of heart or anyone really! It's certainly a bold choice for a gentleman of a certain age. 🤔

😱! Though a couple of years ago dh actually had to buy budgie smugglers at a pool in France where other male swimwear was strictly not allowed!

I don’t like looking at photos of myself in my own home so haveing them on social media is a definite no no! But that’s just me and I can see how upset it makes you feel if you was part of the holiday. A.c.dont see us as part of the human race, just parents and helpful grandparents so their behaviour in this case isn’t that odd from my experience. The pleasure of spending the time with the children makes anything worth it I feel.

Did you pay for the holiday talululah? If you did, and were it me, i would be disappointed.

I just hope for your sake Witzend that you weren't similary forced to go topless!! 😚
Ps. My very prissy elder sister goes topless abroad! I on the other hand need a full-on Victorian bathing machine & still someone (poor s☆d) to hold -up a big towel in front of my lady bits! 😶

Oh dear, we went to a Key Camp in France about 29 years ago with friends, two teenage boys along with the men folk were mortified to learn that it was budgie smugglers only in the swimming pool.

The younger children thought it was hilarious (so did us wives)

You say yourself that you've "just returned"; is she has respect for you - and I'm betting she has both respect and gratitude - then my guess is that she's waiting to speak to you for your ok to post pictures of you before simply assuming it's ok !
Hang in there ...

Get over it.

I'm a bit stunned by the way some people view their children Unless the op has spoken to her son no one will ever know the reason why photos of them were not included.

Ask yourself it is really worth your while to encourage yourself to feel hurt about this.

The important thing is that you had a delightful holiday, surely?

Your DIL may just have posted some photos she especially likes and may never have realised that you and your DH are not in any of them.

Don't let this spoil the good relationship you obviously have with your son, his wife and their children,

Gransnet can show any amount of heartbreaks because someone has either taken or given offence and ended up estranged from their dear ones. Don't join these unfortunate ones.

One of my DILs posted her wedding photo album on FB, not one picture of me. Plenty of her parents and my DH and I don't think I'm that ugly that she would want to hide me away. I've never mentioned it but can't quite forget what seemed like an unpleasant slight.

I have a DIL who has a collage of beautiful photos of everybody at the wedding except my husband and me. I didn't mention it but I was a little hurt, particularly for my husband. My other children noticed it and asked where we whereupon she looked embarrassed saying she hadn't realised. 12 years later it hasn't been rectified!
Still it is better than when another dil sat me with her father who hated me and was always rude to me. She then handed out presents to all the parents except me with lovely little speeches of how fantastic they were. I don't know what I had done wrong because we'd always had what I thought was a good relationship and she still acts as if we do!

mabon2

Get over it.

I’m baffled as to why this person is always so rude? 🤷‍♀️

We've had similar experiences in the past at beach pools in Italy but my husband and sons also had to wear a headcap. But not me!!

We were told that it was because of all the hair grease that the Italian and French men use.
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Tallulah21

I think it bothers me because we had such a good time and now the parts of the holiday with us weren’t important enough to be included in her memories. There are plenty of photos of them and the children so she doesn’t have any problem with that. It’s almost like she has an imaginary life on line where everything is perfect and then reality where we are very much needed.

You’ve just answered your own question there! Online life for that generation and younger, is all about perfection.It’s downright weird.

icanhandthemback

I have a DIL who has a collage of beautiful photos of everybody at the wedding except my husband and me. I didn't mention it but I was a little hurt, particularly for my husband. My other children noticed it and asked where we whereupon she looked embarrassed saying she hadn't realised. 12 years later it hasn't been rectified!
Still it is better than when another dil sat me with her father who hated me and was always rude to me. She then handed out presents to all the parents except me with lovely little speeches of how fantastic they were. I don't know what I had done wrong because we'd always had what I thought was a good relationship and she still acts as if we do!

It’s pure bitchery on their part.

Ilovedogs22

I just hope for your sake Witzend that you weren't similary forced to go topless!! 😚
Ps. My very prissy elder sister goes topless abroad! I on the other hand need a full-on Victorian bathing machine & still someone (poor s☆d) to hold -up a big towel in front of my lady bits! 😶

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Sorry but you seem a bah humbug type of person. Just because you don't like pucs of you the poster obviously does and she has a valid point

This is an interesting one I think! I take loads of photos on holiday and post them on FB usually while we're still away. I think that would be a good way for you to redress the balance - if you use social media and have photos of all of you on holiday, post them! However, looking back at the years when my children were little, I also had help from my in-laws (to enable me to work, not on holiday!) but it's only now that I'm a grandma that I appreciate how hard it must have been some days for my in-laws. When we're in our 30s and 40s and bringing up a family, maybe juggling work too, we don't always show our appreciation for the help we receive from our parents. It's kind of just the way it is I'm afraid. Your daughter in law probably won't fully appreciate the help you've given them until she becomes a grandma herself! 🤷I wouldn't take it too personally 😌

Mojack26

Sorry but you seem a bah humbug type of person. Just because you don't like pucs of you the poster obviously does and she has a valid point

And that post was addressed to whom?
It does help.

It's ridiculous to nitpick someone else's social media. Social media is used to show off a perfect (fake) curated lifestyle. None of it is real.

If you had a good time, focus of the actual experience you had with your loved ones offline. This is just inane. I'm sure there are more important things to worry about in the real world.

This is an interesting one I think! I take loads of photos on holiday and post them on FB usually while we're away

Not really a good idea from a security point of view as you are advertising to whoever sees the posts that your house is empty. You might even find your contents insurance didn’t pay up in the event of a burglary because you have publicised your absence to all and sundry.

I never post pictures of myself or family. Don't want to be on there.
Understand you being hurt at no mention of you but I am afraid for most of us thats how it is. I hardly see my gc now they are working, they are much too busy.

Lots of people don't include their relatives' pictures when they post photos from their vacations or family functions. First of all, you need to ask for permission to share someone's photo online or include it in your Smartshow 3d video and there is a big chance they would decline. Then there are people that avoid social media altogether, so again there is a big chance of them saying "No" when asked if a photo could be shared.

Since you have your own accounts she probably just assumed you'll share the pictures you like on your own and she will share her immediate family's. Sounds reasonable to me.

I am not sure how I would feel honestly. But, have you got photos of you and the Grands enjoying yourselves together? That's what matters and makes memories to keep.

But one thing I would say is, never, ever post holiday photos online while you are actually on holiday. You are showing everyone that your home is empty. There are people out there that constantly surf socials to see who has left their homes empty for the duration. In this day and age it is too easy for someone to find out where you are living. Sad but true.