Posting holiday pics on line

not even a mention although she praises local staff it isn't just about photographs.

Did your son thank you?

Yes, you are right to feel hurt. Post a reply saying something like ‘ gorgeous pictures, didn’t we have a wonderful time’ then add a lovely photo of you with the grandchildren and another one of your dil too so it’s about all of you

Social media has devolved our emotional maturity as a whole, from the youth to the elders of society. This post is proof. No one should need validation from someone else’s social media posts. That is the underlying problem. The real-life experience is diminished because you now feel your DIL should have included your presence in her pictures based off of assumptions you assign to her and what you think she should share on social media. We don’t get to decide what others post. Why should it matter anyway? Your experience with your family should be the only thing you care about here. Do you know all of her followers enough to give such weight to what they know and feel about your holiday experience? By giving someone else’s social media posts this much power over your feelings, you are admitting you care just as much as you accuse your DIL of caring about appearances and opinions of her followers. It’s all silly. Focus on reality. You had a wonderful holiday with your family. Don’t put energy into upset over what others post on their socials.

Good idea Kate .

Kate22

Yes, you are right to feel hurt. Post a reply saying something like ‘ gorgeous pictures, didn’t we have a wonderful time’ then add a lovely photo of you with the grandchildren and another one of your dil too so it’s about all of you

Are you suggesting the OP try to post photos on someone else’s page? This desperation to ensure her DIL’s followers are aware of her presence on the holiday may not be perceived as positively as you’d like to think. People are allowed to post pictures of themselves and their children without grandparents, regardless of the setting of the pictures. Surely we all should have reached the stage of maturity in life that we have better things to concern ourselves with than youth posting pictures of us online.

It isn't just about pictures from the OP not even a mention although she praises the local staff.

A few years ago we took (and paid for) our daughter and granddaughter on holiday to the place where my mother was born. The two of them posed for several photos and never took any of me and DH unless we edged ourselves in. It was upsetting and thoughtless.

Well said BlessedArt.

Tallulah21, your DiL no doubt has a busy life and the important part of the holiday for her was the fun they had, not the help they needed in order for the fun to happen.
You gave them the gift of time to enjoy themselves and that should be enough for you.
Why care about whether her online friends all know that you did that?

No no she is right not to put the children on media sites.. maybe some of the adults could go on .but not the children who knows when people use children pictures for other purposes

Could you not add underneath the photos .that you babysat the children ..or something along those lines

You lucky you got to look after the grandkids .I don't ever have mine . due to money going missing a few years àgo.i only ever see them at church for half hour after the service

Thanks for all your replies.intereting to see different perspectives. I am very lucky and look after grandchildren regularly whilst parents are at work so I have a great relationship with the little ones. think I just have to accept that DIL had an on line fantasy world where she is a perfect mum. I’ve decided to make a holiday photo boo so that I’m years to come the little ones will be able to see that we were there and how much we love both them and their parents. I can include the messy pics and the odd tantrum pic too! I ageee social media is a bane in our lives and mine is limited to close friends and family. I do lovethe memory reminders that show me what I was doing this time last year etc though.
With regard to emotional maturity I think inside we are all sometimes that hurt child and it’s good to talk about things.

A holiday photo book is a great idea, I did similar with a photo album one fir each of my two gc to keep with photos of times when they were with us while parents worked, so they can look back and remember our times together .
You may think you are lucky to look after the children,and of course it’s lovely but it can be hard work so don’t forget you are helping the parents with childcare which otherwise they would have to pay for so are doing them a big favour.
When the time comes that they go to senior school and have other things to occupy their time many of us feel redundant and sidelined, so don’t ever be a doormat.

I would be rather concerned if someone posted pictures of me on holiday without asking! Surely it’s a security risk?

Good idea Tallulah and the messy pics and an odd tantrum one are usually the best.

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I had a photo printed of our second child as a baby (who usually just ate and slept).
It was one of him crying - I felt I needed to remember that he did do this occasionally.

The first baby sobbed all the time I wasn't holding her it seemed to me.

I would not want photos of me online and I don't like photos of the grandchildren either....
But that's a decision for their parents.

mabon2

Get over it.

I think you are ill. Please check with your doctor who may refer you to a psychiatrist. The things you say are not normal!