Saying but Not Doing . Why?

argymargy

Whiff that sort of comment to Barbadosbelle is why people complain about unwelcoming cliques on GN. So what if you haven’t seen her posts before? We were all new here once - even you!

Before making that comment a quick search would have shown that Barbadosbelle has been a member since at least 2024.

Dementia - just a thought.

I suppose these things are a spectrum. A bit like punctuality. It amazes me sometimes how different people are and how (unecessarily) complex life has become.
We all have a limited amount of time and energy.

It sounds as if those were indeed a lot of suggestions that she has been too worried to go with. If she has never been so diffident and repetitive before, it would make me wonder if her reactions are an indication of a cognitive problem... Hard to tell unless you know her very well.

What was the outcome FlyingAiryFairy?

Poppyred

What was the outcome FlyingAiryFairy?

Yes, I was wondering that too, please come back and tell us !

Petra .Barbados Belle has been a member of GN . Search came back no Barbadosbelle. Different spellings. Many people have been caught out by trolls changing a letter from capital to lower case of a different number in the name. They think they are answering a an established member its has happen to at least 6 members who have been here over a decade.

Thankfully GNHQ banned them.

What makes you think I won't fight back if someone attacks my character.

Petra you have been on GN long enough to know what happens on here. And like me known people who have left because of bullying. And eventually come back under a different name when they felt safe.

Poppyred

What was the outcome FlyingAiryFairy?

I dither, it's very difficult for me to make plans or decisions.

I do hope you'll tell us a happy outcome, OP.

Early dementia is a thought...

argymargy

Whiff that sort of comment to Barbadosbelle is why people complain about unwelcoming cliques on GN. So what if you haven’t seen her posts before? We were all new here once - even you!

I quite agree. Babadosbelle has posted for quite some time, Whiff may be the new poster here (or I have never seen that name).

Why does name recognition matter?

Barbadosbelle

Whiff

Sadly, you come across as being a rather hard and unsympathetic person - and possibly/probably rather difficult to get on with or please.
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I agree. I would never tolerate anyone dictating how a friendship should be.
You come across as dictatorial, bossy and a bit full of yourself. I can't stand people like that.

Whiff I haven’t seen your name before, not that it matters, but a quick search shows Barbadosbelle was posting a year or so ago with the same spelling btw.
It’s very wrong of you to insinuate that she may be a troll!

To the OP, I do think that some older people become more dithering as time goes on.Maybe time for you to take control of the meeting and be firm?

Op - how did it go?

This will be my last word here. I joined GN March 2019.
And I post on multi threads. Didn't search very well .
Plus large number of names here never seen before.

Or you only like threads where you think you can pick on people. I fight back and defend people who can't do it for themselves.

Your friend is clearly anxious about displeasing you. She wants you to enjoy the visit and is afraid you are not going to like it, or be too expensive. Why not help her out by suggesting to her lets wait until the day and then see where we fancy going. It doesnt have to be somewhere you need to book in advance or anywhere posh. You are there to have a catch up.