moving on after bereavement

blackbird I am in Newcastle so not too far from you.

blackbird Cruse is a widows club. i know very little about it, but I believe it is very good.

how do you get in touch with cruse it sounds ideal it would help me to make new friends.My husband was disabled with arthiritis and most of my friends fell away until there was only the two of us

They have a website:

www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/

With local branches. I hope that you will get in touch with them soon.

thank you for website have e-mailed them no local groups in northumberland so its back to the beginning fed up with being lonely

blackbird I googled "Northumberland widows groups" and among the hits was this site -
www.housingcare.org/service/list/s-22-companionship-befriending/l-455-northumberland.aspx

and this
www.go4awalk.com/walking-groups-and-new-walking-friends/new-walk-friends.php

and this
www.northumberlandlife.org/alnwickfriends/AboutUs.asp

Have a look and contact them. Until you do, they do not know thatyou need them.

thank you Elegran am looking into them hope to get news soon

i have been on my own now for three years after loosing my husband of 58 years,iam 81ys young ,and have some loverly memories of those years , in the last three years i have cried more than i have laught but its getting better and i am now begining to live a little bit more ( if this is possable ) so chine up , i have just joined a couple of day clubs and they are very helpfull and friendly,i know its easy to tell people to cheere up but please dont look down look up it dose get better and you can smile about the good times you had

freddie1 Gransnet needs troopers such as you.

Hi freddie

whoops forgot the 1 do appologise

Take a day at a time and dont expect too much from yourself. I lost my husband suddenly, he went to work had a massive heart attack and never came home - he was 47. I had lost my father only 3 months before that. My whole world turned upside down and I never thought I could continue on without him. The hardest things were doing things on my own that we had always done together e.g. holidays, christmas, family birthdays and so on. My grown up children were a godsend and I found solace in my memories though it did take hell of a while to laugh again. I felt like I was stood on the outside of the world looking in on other people that had a life and that I didnt have one anymore. Things do get better in time but it is a slow process with good and bad days. Anytime you want to talk let it all out. I am new to GN and was surprised and touched at the comments you have had. There are people here showing genuine kindness and empathy. Chin up we are all here for you and am sending you a loving hug.

Just noticed this thread - on Wednesday it will be a year since I lost the love of my life. I still find it hard to accept. Everyone is very kind and I put on a "front" whenever I am with someone. I try to be positive, thinking of all the good times we had - but sometimes it is overwhelming.

Barrow I can only imagine how you must be feeling. Your memories of the good times are evergreen.

Barrow Freddie and everyone else who has lost their loves

barrowjust atip, go and do something on Wednesday! Don't sit and mope!

to all of you who have lost the love of your life

Freddie1 After all that time you must have some lovely memories and also great stories to tell.

for you all.

Miss you Dad

I will never have to grieve for the loss of my soul-mate, or the love of my life, because I have never had one. I fear I will eventually have to grieve for the loss of my daughter if she continues her drug abuse. Loss is the price you pay for loving. Those of you who have lost partners after very long and happy relationships must be devastated, but you must have many good memories.
I don't much like the expression 'moving on' - it seems to imply that you are leaving something behind, whereas I think you are probably just surviving from day to day until a new rhythm of life becomes established.

Oh dear Greatnan you had me in tears then - so touching though!

Thank you, helshea. It is my own fault that I never found the right partner - I was looking for Mr. 100% so I turned down an awful lot of Mr. 99%s.

There is nothing wrong with going for 100%

Even so, Mr Right can eventually turn into Mr Wrong.