moving on after bereavement

You'll be in my thoughts today learner

We'll all be thinking of you today, Learnergran. xx

A big (((hug))) from me for anyone who needs it but especially for you Learner today. You will get through it with the support of your family and all the positive wishes from here.

Learnergran
My thoughts will be with you today.Be kind to yourself and do what is right for you.

A warm hug from me too Learnergran and to others feeling sad today

Learnergra - it has all happened so quickly for you. You must be feeling dazed and tired. Glad you have your loving family around you. Grief should be shared. Thinking of you ((((big hugs))))

Learnergran will be thinking of you.
My cousin, who had time on her side (not a sudden demise) planned her own funeral which was really a celebration of her life and loves, favourite piece of music, poem etc.
A couple, to whom she was kind and who later became good friends, asked to add their contribution and told of the way she 'rescued them'.
Her family were told to wear something red, her colour!
I still found it almost too much to cope with....
I hope you 'get through' with the support of your lovely family ((((hugs))))

A big warm hug for you learnergran I will be thinking about you this afternoon.

Learner thinking of you today and sending support and

Learner and I hope you gain some comfort from the service and having your dear family around you today.

Learner hugs and

Learner

Learner Deep breath! (((hugs)))

learner we will all be with you today

What a sad day for you Learnergran I saw your post earlier and the power went off for a few hours and I couldn't send a comment. I have been thinking of you probably laying awake in the night with thoughts of the day ahead. You really have my sympathy and ((((hugs)))).

Learnergran

I really appreciate the support.
And I could do with a little more today please - funeral at 2:30 this afternoon.

Jendurham and Learnergran I feel so sad for you. Reading your posts have made me even more determined to make every momemnt of my marriage count. Your hearts must feel fit to burst [with grief]...but still you need to be in control of the "nitty gritty" aspects of every day life, regarding finance and such. I cannot bear to place myself in your position. And yet, at some point, one of us will leave the other to carry on alone. I hope that you are being cared for and receiving the support that helps to ease your pain.

I can only send supportive thoughts to all in this sad situation.

I'm another who has only just caught up with this thread. Grief is so very unpredictable - and just plain tiring, often because even when we're in the thick of it we are still trying to ensure that other affected people are being supported. I do hope that all you lovely people who have experienced recent losses find yourselves surrounded by family and friends who will help care for you.

learner

I've only just caught up with this thread and I'm saddened by all the stories but so impressed with the courage of all of you who have lost partners. I can't begin to understand what you are all going through but my sympathy goes out to you all and you are in my thoughts

Hello glass, nice to talk to you again.
It must be such a comfort to you, when, that your sister had such a peaceful death. That was how I felt about my mother, who was nearly 92. She had been loved and well cared for but I feel quite sure in my heart that she would have been ready to simply fall asleep and drift away. The kind of exit we would all hope for I think.

Learnergran and Jendurham my heart goes out to you

I know there's lots of recent controversy about the Liverpool Care Pathway. My sister was on it in the last couple of weeks of her life, in the hospice. It was absolutely the right thing for her, and she had discussed it with her husband and consultant before she became incapable of making decisions. It was managed with compassion and we were consulted about her progress every day. It was reviewed daily, although the standard on her plan said every three days. She couldn't take water as she had a tracheostomy, but her mouth was bathed and kept moist. She died peacefully, in no haste, no pain, and in complete comfort.