I think it's really important not to undermine each other, particularly in public I hate to hear anyone making nasty comments about their other half I think it's very disloyal. The same attitude towards managing money helps, I know several relationships where one half is a reckless spender and the other one has to do the bailing out, personally I think it's grounds for divorce, particularly if the spender doesn't change their ways and think it's their right to have whatever they want irrespective of whether or not there is enough money in the coffers. Having said all that, separate bank accounts is a must for me. I think it's essential to give each other space to pursue interests as long as they don't impact on the marriage. Shared chores, I do the cooking, my husband is better at cleaning than me, that works for us. Most of all never forget to tell the other person you love them. I remember making a point of telling my mother how much I loved her and I'm really glad I did as an adult and before she died, because although that person knows you love them, sometimes it needs to be said, particularly to your other half and quite frequently I'd say. Be prepared to compromise from time to time, I'm doing it this week, I'm going to see the new Jack Reacher film which I gather is utter rubbish but my other half has read all the books, so it's quid pro quo for him coming to see The Life of Pi with me which wasn't his cup of tea!