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Jadey Thu 07-Mar-13 13:56:16

Happy, quite settled and just a little stressed due to family demands.

j08 Thu 07-Mar-13 13:59:42

I want cake.

LullyDully Thu 07-Mar-13 14:20:55

Not as happy as yesterday or the day before....just enjoying the garden..... now its all wet again.

I love Hampshire clay its like finding great seams of half chewed toffee in the ground!!!! smile

LullyDully Thu 07-Mar-13 14:22:35

Glad to hear you are feeling better Jadey hope things looking brighter with your little grandson [cupcake ]

Jadey Thu 07-Mar-13 14:26:35

Thank you, yes it really helped speaking to everyone about it, sometimes you just need to air it to see it better and be able to make a good decision, I was feeling hopeless now I have hope.Thank you smile

Jay1952 Thu 07-Mar-13 14:32:13

Can't wait for the summer :-)

Fondasharing Thu 07-Mar-13 14:42:03

I lost my dear Dad four weeks ago tomorrow. I thought I would feel relieved (he had been ill for some months) and he was 88 and it was his time to go.

Instead I feel very tired, very weepy and very regretful that I was not with him the afternoon he passed away.

I am sure this will get better, but as the days go by, it weighs heavily in my heart.

I was so lucky to have him around for 65 years, so feel very selfish that I feel so "down" about losing him. Is this normal?

Jadey Thu 07-Mar-13 14:50:03

YES defently normal, I lost my Dad 7 years ago and shed a tear just last week. He was your Dad at the end of the day, but you make a very valid point that you were lucky to have him for 65 years as when I get upset about loosing my Dad I do the same thing and force myself to realise how lucky I was just to have had a loving caring Dad as there are many people in the world that do not know what it feels like to have a Dadsmile

whenim64 Thu 07-Mar-13 15:03:33

Sorry to hear you're feeling down Fodasharing. It's early days and grief can really overwhelm us sometimes, then be manageable at other times. I was doing relatively ok when I lost my mum until a few months later I had to sign and date something, and realised it would have been her birthday. I felt awful because I hadn't remembered. You just have to be kind to yourself. Take care flowers

JessM Thu 07-Mar-13 16:08:04

fonda - it does take time. And yes, you were very lucky. Mine died when I was four and I missed out on so much. Still have a little sad moment if I think about it. My DH lost his when he was 17. I don't think he ever properly grieved - his mum sent him to school the day after!
Don't know about the rest of the country but, blow me down, it is dark and grey and damp here. Feels like it has been going on a long time.

annodomini Thu 07-Mar-13 16:18:12

You are entirely normal fonda. I miss my dad after 24 years. He is as real to me now as he always was. Sometimes if I have a dilemma I run it past him, to work out what he would have said. He was as kind as he was wise. You will come to live with your loss, but he will always be with you in some way or other.

Stansgran Thu 07-Mar-13 18:25:58

I lost my father in my teens. A few years ago I traced my half sister who had not kept contact about four years before that. Last year on his birthday-like you When I was signing something and I realized that I was the only person alive who thought of him on his birthday. I phoned my half sister thinking she might have remembered too but she didn't know the date. Grey and dank here too.

Gally Thu 07-Mar-13 19:24:07

Fondasharing flowers As Anno says, it's completely normal.
It's very strange when you are the only one who remembers. I reminded my DD that it would have been her Granny's birthday today, but it only really means something to me. My Dad died nearly 12 years ago and it feels like yesterday and I will be the only one remembering. I felt very low in February on the 1st anniversary of Mr.G's funeral as I was home alone : all my girls forgot and were mortified when I told them. They had obviously remembered the date of his death the week before and had moved on a little, which is good.

celebgran Thu 07-Mar-13 21:42:56

Fonda this is as others say completely normal such early days.

My beloved father in law died 4 years ago and I find myself thinking of him every day I miss him dreadfully but he was 91 and had alzheimers it gets less painful but will always mis him so much he was around for so long knew him for 36 years and my own dad for only 16.

Hunt Thu 07-Mar-13 23:00:38

It is over forty years since my DD died and I still miss him.I am glad there are still quite a few people around who remember him and my sister and I often talk about him. You won't forget your dad, Fonda, and will always love him.

seasider Thu 07-Mar-13 23:15:45

I sometimes think I am the only one who remembers my dear mum's birthday but the date of her death will always stick with me as my youngest son was born on the same date 7 years later. It was not my due date so we always joke that his grandma sent him and I know if she had met him she would have loved him very much. I never knew my dad so I envy all of you who had even a few years with your dad smile

Fondasharing Fri 08-Mar-13 08:29:12

Thanks so much to all of you for making me feel as though I am not strange in mourning my Dad.

I am such a practical person, I did not think I would react so strongly to his passing.....thought I would accept it was his time.

Anyway, I really appreciate you all sharing your memories, thank you so much.

When I left the funeral and was driving home I "let go" and started to husband put the radio on to "divert" my thoughts and a song was playing......"Run".......Light up, light up.......(if you go on You tube....Leona Lewis sings it) was just as though Dad was telling me......

Light up, light up,
As if you have a choice, Even if you cannot hear my voice,
I'll be right beside you dear.

Does that every happen to anyone else, when a song comes on just at the right time?

Thank you again.

ginny Fri 08-Mar-13 08:59:43

Fondasharing.....The sadness of loosing someone you love never really goes away, we just learn to cope with it. My Dad died nearly 2 years ago at the age of 87. I had been his carer for the last year or so and it takes some time to adjust to having time to yourself. My Mum died 20 years ago today and I still have a few tears now and then. We have to live our lives and remember all the good times we spent with our loved ones. They live on in the hearts of those who loved them .

Jadey Fri 08-Mar-13 12:13:45

yes fond the song thing has happened to me a couple of time smile

I guess the message here could be value appreciate and love the people we that are still with us.

Jadey Fri 08-Mar-13 12:15:09

PS----Today I am feeling content calm and quite happysmile

grannyactivist Fri 08-Mar-13 16:22:36

Today I am feeling tired and ill. Usually I stay pretty upbeat about my health problems, but having a persistent cough for a couple of months (again) is really bringing me down. This is the third time I've had it and each time it seems to suck the life out of me even more. My poor husband appeared in my room at just after 4am with tea and the offer of brandy for me. (He moved out to another room ages ago so that he can get a decent night's sleep, but I'd woken him up anyway.) [Mrs. Glum emoticon]

kittylester Fri 08-Mar-13 16:33:11

GA brewflowers hope you feel better soon, it's not like you to be down. sad

Today I'm in a really good mood because my brothers have, at last, come round to mum moving into the home DH recommended 2 years ago confused. She moves on Friday. winewine

Tomorrow is DGS1's 6th birthday party and I'm really looking forward to being part of the celebrations with 30 over-excited 5/6 year olds, in fancy dress, on a bouncy castle hmm Better go and start the cake! grin

Galen Fri 08-Mar-13 16:37:51

Just been to see DD and DGD!grin

Bags Fri 08-Mar-13 16:53:48

galen and kitty, sunshine

I'll join you in the Feeling Grotty Room, ga. So much ME/fibromyalgia pain last night, I've even made an appointment with the doc. Need better pain management. Hey ho. Could be worse. At least I don't need operations.
Get well soon flowers

I did get something done today – finished a baby quilt for my new GS.

Galen Fri 08-Mar-13 16:58:52

Oh poor you! The consensus is that amytriptilline works well in FM. Some people swear by gabapentin, but it does have side effects. It must be the weather!
Actually I've found mine slightly better since I started taking A vit D and magnesium supplement. Might be worth trying!
Like you I refuse to believe I've got it, but whatever it is it hurtsangry