I'm sure this is an age old problem but can someone please advise. I am in my late 60's and have only one child, a son. My husband and I are so delighted to have become grandparents at last. Our little grandson is 3 months old and, although we live within a few miles, we can see him at best once a week and then only for a short visit as we don't want to outstay our welcome. My daughter in law is a lovely person and we get on really well but the problem is....her mother! Although daughter in laws parents have a 3 hour return trip, they have now taken to visiting 2 or 3 times during the week and staying most of the day and then at the weekend, son and daughter in law spend Sunday at her parents house. My son doesn't mind as he has a very stressful job and he feels his wife is getting a lot of support from her parents which he sees as good. I agree, but husband and I feel sidelined. I have always (and continue to do,so) offered help but so far, apart from taking them meals when baby was first born, I am just not needed as daughter in laws mum has 'done it all'
I feel sad because Daughter in laws parents are much younger than us (15 years) and will most likely have many more years to spend with this grandchild and any more that may come along. Don't get me wrong DIL's parents are thoroughly nice people but her mum just takes over and I feel like a stranger in my own sons house if our visits overlap. By the way, we only ever go there if invited. I did speak to my son about this, but he just can't see there's a problem. I have asked him if they can visit us for a meal from time to time and he always says yes, but they don't. I really feel upset about this but am reluctant to make a fuss. Would love to hear from others who may have had similar experience, or anyone who can offer advice .
Thanks!!!
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