I have just heard that my elderly father has suddenly died. I have not seen him since I was a small child when he left my Mother. He tried to keep in contact for a few years but it dwindled out.(We exchanged Christmas cards)
He subsequently married the woman he left my Mother for and they have one daughter who is eighteen years younger than me Last year I tracked her down and we have met once.A year before we met I had tried to re establish contact with my Father but he didn't want to know I suppose I desperately wanted to fill in all the gaps in my childhood memories.
My half sister said that he completely blocked out his previous life and marriage and NEVER discussed it with anyone- in fact it was her Mother who told her of my existence.
She informed me of his death last week and asked if I wanted to come to the funeral My own Mother is in a Nursing Home and has advancing dementia so I cannot discuss it or even tell her.
My thoughts are in turmoil and my own family tells me I should do what seems right
The funeral will be very small (6 or 7 ) so I will be very conspicuous and two or three of the people there do not know of my existence.
Can any of you wise ladies help with my dilemma?
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