My adult daughter until just recently lived in our home with our 9 year old grandson. In his 9 years they have attempted to live on their own I think it were 4 times. She is a very hard person to live with. Basically, because she's hard to live with thus she always came back home. She's had my grandson's dad and a boyfriend live with her and to hear them tell it - she pretty much treated things the same as I have dealt with her when she lived at home. Long story... but as she and my grandson have recently moved out I'm still bothered with our strained relationship. She's a great mom but she tends to be selfish in ways I cannot keep my mouth shut. It's very difficult for me to keep quiet after several acts of selfishness. I try hard to not say a word in my opinion but eventually I can't hold it in any longer. I do try very hard to keep my nose out of her business but sometimes... sometimes it is next to impossible!!! My husband will tell me "why did you say that?" to "she's a good mom and she's just selfish." He's not one to be confrontational and it's easier to just ignore till he too will eventually give his opinion.
So this leaves me with my latest occurrence and I thought maybe if I asked others for advise???
One recent morning she were dropping my grandson off on her way to work. I happen to go out front to meet him and saw he were "already" getting in trouble for something. Finally he came down the drive way and I asked him were he alright? He were very very tired and just wanted to go back to bed. It were early between 6:30-7:00 am for her to be at work. Because he looked so sad I went to the bedroom to make sure he were ok. He had locked the door and I asked could I come in? He open the door but told me he just wanted to go to sleep. When he finally woke we were running errands and I asked him did he want to talk to me about what happened this morning? He said his Mom got mad at him cause she said he were whining. He said he asked her to turn down the car radio so he could sleep. (I too have been in the car with her and she blared her radio and when I asked her to turn it down - my request too caused a problem) So anyway, my question is since we rarely agree on many of her selfish acts of discipline and that would be her biggest reason for moving out... I want to confront her with how she should have turn down the radio when she were asked. My grandson is 9 years old. He's a really great kid! I know that when I suggest something in my opinion in reference to my grandson it always ends with a problem with she and I. She will say "this is exactly why we moved out" to "I'm not going to talk to you about this!"
I just need advise and opinions please... She's very selfish with her wants and needs. She always has been... This incident is one of the many but would be the latest incident. I would just like to have some opinions please?
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