Today a little girl in my grandson's class went to the teacher and told her that when they were lining up outside the classroom my grandson said, "I'm going to kill you" to her (no context asked for or given). The teacher's response was to ask the tattle-tale poor, traumatised child, 'How did that make you feel?' And of course the child said it wasn't nice or it was upsetting or some such. (Both children are just turned 5.)
The teacher then insisted that my grandson write a letter of apology, which was given to the little girl's mother at home time and my daughter was asked in at the end of the school day to discuss this 'very serious incident' and told that the little girl's mother was very angry and upset about it. The teacher said that this was such a serious thing that she was going to put my grandson on a 'Behavioural Report' as a consequence - and my daughter told her, somewhat forcefully, that she was going to do no such thing.
Now, my grandson can be silly; he says 'bum-face' and 'poo poo head' to the other children if they irritate him excessively (the same girl's mother 'reported' this to my daughter before Christmas) - but he is also bright and the most accomplished reader in his class. He is never disruptive and usually gets on with his work without any trouble. At his previous school the teacher said he was a delight to have in the class and an asset to the school. (He went to a school nursery class.) He is also incredibly kind and patient with his little brother.
So, am I right in thinking that this teacher is barking mad to make so much of so little?