I need to have a painful and difficult discussion with my son about the way he verbally abuses his wife. Within the family we've all witnessed this at different times over the years. One doesn't like to interfere, and on the one occasion my husband tried to suggest that his handling of a situation was unacceptable, well... you can imagine my son's reaction.
But now something has happened which makes me feel I cannot let things slide any longer. My son told his sister (not us) about an incident in a coffee shop when he and his wife were arguing to such an extent that when he got up to go to the loo, the man sitting nearby leaned over and asked his wife if she was okay! Apparently my DS was shamed and embarrassed by this (quite rightly), but I wonder if it's enough to get him to see how damaging his arguments can be. He always has to be right and win the argument - with anyone (I usually just let it go as I really don't have to win the argument over his assessment of a film).
I don't know where all this comes from. My husband and I have our disagreements, but he's never been verbally abusive, and while none of us are shy violets, this need to always be right is not evident elsewhere in the family. My underlying fear is that, one day, my DDIL (and we DO love her!) will say she's had enough and leave!
I need practical suggestions on ways in which I might tackle this conversation without putting him on the defensive or telling me to mind my own business. Help!
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