You need to do some serious thinking Parcs, you say your DH retired 5 years ago and everything has been OK until recently. What has changed?
You have also had stress with your DD, you have them living with you as I understand, and also you feel your DH is "siding" with your DD in the arguments? I have got this from your other thread, but dobn't see how these can be separated.
I find it hard to see how this is a reflection of your actual relationship, but rather that you are fed up to here with the situation at home and maybe you do need to reassess where things are at. Are you still working? Is there no prospect of the young ones finding their own place? There seem to have been some misunderstandings, like over the shared or not shared car and much could be down to a lack of actual communication in the family. You sound as if you cannot make up your mind about what you want. If your DH does not share your interests, go with a friend. If he does sweet nothing in the house and is fit enough to, give him his list of chores or responsibilities. Be clear what you want then act accordingly.
Finally, be careful what you wish for!