I love the term "Thunderous Threes" as I thought it was only me having trouble beyond 3 and a half, which is when I remembered my own sons emerging from toddler hell. Three year olds are cleverer, heavier and less distractable! My gorgeous GD, now 3y 9m, has no truck with choice strategies: "Would you like to wear the blue coat or the red one?" "NO" and when in full melt down, won't agree to any bribe or persuasion, and if a bad consequence is mentioned, ("You'll be hungry" " You won't have time to play") just howls the more. It's always the transition times, of which there are many in the 2 hours I have her and her 6 yr old brother after school. (Car, in the house, wee and handwash, snack, play, tea, home).Some little thing like a drawing going wrong or a simple request will start her off Having tried to move her physically a time or two, I've realised that initial sympathy and persuasion, then walking away is the best strategy, but that's hard when it comes to getting her to the table and eating before harrassed parents arrive.