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grannylyn65 Wed 23-Dec-15 08:43:36

I know I am awful but am absulutely dreading Christmas, been asked to stay with long standing friends, there will be at least 15. I have lived alone for over 20 years and have worked most Christmasses. I just get so wound up in any large gatherings, family or otherwise! I can't have a drink as am a recovering alcoholic (30 years) not only that but my dental plate still hurts after numerous visits!
I read all the happy positive posts and wish I could feel like that
Watching all the terrible plight of others home and abroad puts lid on
I am not ungrateful, truly. At work I was the 'life and soul' now I am Mrs Bah Humbug grade one
Aplologies but I can't tell anyone else!!
You all have a good time and hugs to those that will be sad. I am not sad, just nothing much.
And yes, am on medication ?

petra Thu 24-Dec-15 18:45:25

It would have to be a bloody big house for me to share it with 15 people !!!
Freinds and family, doesn't matter, tooooo many.

grannylyn65 Sat 26-Dec-15 15:52:46

Well, you were right,!everybody made me feel so welcome and it was great, their oldest son gave up his bedroom so I could have some 'space'
It was nice being part of a happy family ( for a change') that last line would have a line through it if I knew how !!!!

phoenix Sat 26-Dec-15 15:57:15

So glad that it went well, grannylyn tchsmile really pleased for you!

Charleygirl Sat 26-Dec-15 16:23:57

I second phoenix.

grannylyn65 Sat 26-Dec-15 20:33:57


Elrel Sat 26-Dec-15 23:52:05

So good that you could vent your feelings here, get varied feedback, and decide what to do, knowing people were thinking about your dilemma. Glad you enjoyed Christmas with your friends!

f77ms Sun 27-Dec-15 08:59:14

I am with you Grannylynn65 . I get so stressed out when having to socialise . I used to be so different but a bad marriage with a husband who saw social occasions as an excuse to get drunk and verbally aggressive sucked all my confidence .

Good on you for quitting the drink btw ! If you really don`t want to go maybe a little white lie (flu) would enable you to opt out and do what you want .

Nana3 Mon 28-Dec-15 09:13:17

Good news grannylyn I'm very glad for you and Happy New Year.

Indinana Mon 28-Dec-15 10:22:25

So pleased it all went well grannylynn. These things are rarely as we imagine or fear they will be. Happy New Year to to tchsmile

Indinana Mon 28-Dec-15 10:23:03

To you! Flippin' iPhone!