I am sure that she had been told /read/knows about the potential damage to babies/children from smoke, smoking parents & passive smoking before your outburst supernan She has made a choice most find hard to understand but she is an adult and not a child.
I hope you can ignore their mum's poor choices enough to maintain a relationship with the children. They are the most important people in this scenario so possibly by focusing on them you can feel better about their situation.
Can you give them some alternative experiences by taking them out (if she allows this of course) for some fun, it might help you to feel you are making a difference to the children and reduce your worry.
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