Times change. My mother used to clean every room in the house every week - not just hoovering but dusting, polishing, cleaning windows and washing down paintwork. I don't. Her standards are obviously not yours but that's down to her and you won't change that. If it bothers you to that extent, you could arrange to see your SS and grandkids somewhere outside their home.
Personally I can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke and stale alcohol so I wouldn't have lasted as long as you have. I suspect you aren't the first to tell her about smoking and drinking when pregnant, nor will you be the last. Share your fears with your SS. If she continues, which she probably will, you can do no more. While it's hard to accept, you can't force her to give up smoking and drinking if she doesn't want to. Work out what you can do to support her husband and kids and do it.
Kate Garroway-Care at home costs
Good Morning Good Friday 29th March 2024