Could you go out to lunch or for coffee together some time soon. Try to have a pleasant, relaxed time and she may well open up to you a bit. It does sound as if the relationship between you is somewhat strained. Maybe tell her that you're around to help if she needs anything and then back off and keep yourself busy with your own life, it might be good for her to hear that you are there for her if required. Do you think that she feels you are critical of her and her parenting style which is causing you to clash somewhat. Help out where you can if it is required but there is nothing else you can do. She is an adult and she has to sort out her own problems. Try not to be too upset by the abortion, if she undertakes it. If she cannot cope with two children then she would never cope with 3 of them.
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