And who knows, maybe the other Gran will refuse too? The child-friendly holiday in the type of resort you describe sounds like hell to anyone of our age and an expensive hell at that. I hope you do refuse and look forward to that lovely cruise. A first cruise is very special and the Mediterranean is a good place to start. I hope you can bin the guilt, as someone suggested, and if Gran 2 does go, so what? She'll soon see, won't she?! I love spending time with "my" little ones but feel really exhausted afterwards and if yours are boys, they are usually very physical and more tiring, at least that's what I find. Factor in everyone else's kids and you have a bit of a nightmare on your hands. Spend the money on your second cruise next year, and meanwhile spend lots of time with the little ones, which will be more enjoyable than a week incarcerated in a noisy hotel in a place not of your choosing. Happy days !