I have read the thread about people who were smacked/abused in childhood causing traumas.
When I was young punishments such as a smack or the belt etc were normal. Personally I do not feel the worse for having been brought up strictly. I knew people or around my age who were maybe not so angelic out of doors but still obeyed their parents to the end.
What worries me more now is reading about how the older people are being treated. I read of a lady in a care home who was sexually abused at the age of 101. We hear of the dodgy workers who go round the doors telling pensioners that their slates are dodgy and they just happen to have the right slates and will fix it all for a huge sum and will take the old person to the bank to make sure they get the money.
There are also stories on Grandsnet of older people dealing with drink and drug addicted adult children and others who have had to take on grandchildren full time because of drink and drug problems. Some grandparents feel put up because they are expected to babysit and some even getting criticised for that either because they don't follow the strict routines of the parents or that as mentioned elsewhere a gran with health problems babysat for a removal and then was told she should have done more. There are demands for money. Help needed to get on the property ladder
There is so much criticism of grans going on added to the emotional blackmail of it being threatened that grandchildren will be kept away if there is any non-compliance.
Does this make us the generation who were smacked by our parents and teachers and now we are the generation who are facing problems from out children and people of children age groups? It seems like a load of strife to me
What do others think?
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