DH and his DM have never had a great relationship. She's always been very difficult and very critical of DH. Over the years she's constantly attempted to get me to side with her over criticising my DH. I've always refused to go there and she's never liked it, so there's a fair bit of animosity going on. We're the only family locally. She has two granddaughters, sadly their mum died years ago, but they live far away.
Her health is fading, yet she's always been fiercely independent. She's getting more difficult and demanding. DH has just retired and we have a caravan. We want to enjoy our retirement now and this is really important as I've had cancer and one or two other health issues.
She's in hospital and I've just had a call from her asking if I can pick her up as she's being discharged. She says they're sending her home with a commode. DH is away from home all day to day sorting something out. She can't walk and I'm not strong enough to pick her up, let alone a commode. We're astonished that she's being discharged as she's not well still. We're also wondering who is supposed to empty the commode. It's not DH's bag and I certainly cannot do it. What's more we've got so many plans for time away in our caravan.
I'm stressed, as I cannot see any solution. DH does the right thing for her, for the most part but he's still eaten up with sadness over the way she has treated him.
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