I had this conversation with my best friend yesterday who had recently told one of her daughters that she felt they didn't have time for her and she felt neglected. I know, and she knows, that nothing could be further from the truth, and that she was just going through a bit of a low period and she said that she can't believe that she actually thought like that. She, too, is widowed and lives alone. I think quite a few of us feel like this from time to time - suddenly a bit left out of our children's lives in spite of all we do and have done for them, especially when that commitment has meant you setting aside a large part of your free time in order to meet their needs. As the children get older, your input decreases and you start to feel a bit sidelined. My own daughter and son in law hardly have time to turn round, with their own commitments and those of our grandson, who is now getting to the age where we are less of a constant in his life than we were when he was younger. It sounds to me as if you are included in all the important bits - I'm not sure I see just how much more you want. I would try not to make this an issue between you.