I really don't know if this situation can be bettered? Any words of wisdom will be greatly appreciated.
Here's the thing-
I relocated to live near my daughter, son-in-law and 2 grand kiddies, 5 and 8. I live alone (widowed 20 years),now aged 70
Daughter and son-in-law are a busy, hard-working, successful couple in their early 40's.
I happily do the school run, child mind as and when required and have the kiddies for the odd sleepovers.
Requests for my services are by text messages.
I am included in birthday and Christmas celebrations and we all had a weekend away last summer. Also get invited to school concerts and suchlike.
I am not included in anything else which irks me but what disturbs me more is that my daughter and son-in-law show absolutely no interest in my life or concern for me whatsoever.They seem to be totally self absorbed.
Once I told my son-in-law that I didn't feel part of the family at all. He was surprised, shocked and apologized profusely. Things improved but it was short lived.
I feel somewhat invisible if you see what I mean.
Fortunately I have good friends with shared interests and we support each other. Nevertheless I would love some companionship with my daughter.She is very independent.Occasionally seeks my advice but never pops in for tea or suggests a bit of shopping together.
My son-in-law is a reserved and serious intellectual and not one who seems to enjoy much social interaction other than with his peers and I cannot expect him to change.
Thanks ++ for any advice.
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