2 years ago my elderly Mother was admitted to a hospice. A few days later my home was broken into and needless to say it was a stress I could have done without at any time but on top of my Mum's situation, it upset me greatly.
The next day my neighbour came to see me and I became so distressed that I had symptoms of either a stroke of a heart attack. I was taken to hospital.
My neighbour called my daughter to let her know that I was in the local A&E. my daughter sent her love to me and asked my neighbour to keep her updated on my situation which my neighbour did.
I was admitted on to a ward for a night and a day for observation etc. It turned out that my BP had shot through the roof and I had had a major panic attack due to all that was going on in my life.
My daughter didn't contact me via my mobile phone at all which I thought was a bit thoughtless but after I had seen the doctor I sent her a text. Nothing back. I made the assumption that her phone was out of battery etc. When I was told all had settled & I hadn't had a heart attack/stroke and that I could go home, I sent my daughter a text and asked would she be able to come and take me home. No only did I feel fragile from my panic attack but I was having to go back into the house that had only been burgled a few days previously.
My daughter said that she couldn't come because she was out with her children and husband. So I made my own way home.
I could never bring myself to ask her why she had been so cold & distant towards me that time.
Since then we have got on ok and I have enjoyed looking after my grandchildren and spending time with them.
But I have never really fathomed out her behaviour and now after these past two years I am feeling some sadness re-emerging and some resentment towards what I consider to be her selfish behaviour and I'm not sure how to deal with it.
Should I bring it up & out in the open or try to let it go, push it the back of my mind and move forward?
My daughter also doesn't make any attempt to see her elderly grandfather unless I prompt her. I feel very sad about it.
She is a very good Mother and her children are lovely well behaved children but I feel that she had totally thrown her life into her children and not left much room for anyone else.
I would appreciate opinions/advice/ and similar experiences.
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