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JackieBee1 Tue 25-Apr-17 10:07:35

How do we feel about putting on the dreaded Facebook, a link to Amazon, listing what presents their child would like for their 3rd birthday?

chocolatepudding Tue 25-Apr-17 10:50:25

Firstly, a sign of the times we are living in.

Secondly, incredibly bad manners.

Saralou18 Tue 25-Apr-17 10:54:52


yggdrasil Tue 25-Apr-17 10:59:19

Very sensible. You will know what the child likes even if you don't get the exact thing. And the parents can make sure they don't get 10 unwanted barbies :-)

mumofmadboys Tue 25-Apr-17 12:12:49

Grabbing and materialistic!!

Christinefrance Tue 25-Apr-17 12:18:03

I totally agree with chocolatepudding , what is this teaching the children ?

Izabella Tue 25-Apr-17 13:07:06

Sensible. We have an extremely small budget and this way I am sure whatever we do get is wanted and will not be immediately recycled. Like other posters I was initially horrified until I reflected .....

Riverwalk Tue 25-Apr-17 13:20:52

You can always ask the parents for suggestions, as I do regarding the DGC, but sending out Amazon lists for a three year-old, or any age for that matter, is bad manners, IMO.

Ilovecheese Tue 25-Apr-17 13:37:07

Maybe a few people had been asking for ideas and this seemed a sensible way to give them. Christinefrance the children wouldn't need to know.

Lona Tue 25-Apr-17 15:31:46

It's a good way of showing exactly which toy/game is which, just being told what something is called doesn't mean a thing unless you spend lots of time in toy shops.

Norah Tue 25-Apr-17 16:40:55

It's not my favorite at all, but I do try to live today's world.

I'm with GC and GGC several times a week, I don't have any notion to what they have or need.

Nice to buy what they actually want, so a long Amazon list is helpful for larger gifts and gives many options. I fill in with little items that I want to buy because. Or I give money to their mums to buy.

I hate to be dictated to, but I really don't know what most toys and clothes are named.

My daughters and granddaughters, who have small children, keep ongoing lists at Amazon, not directed to me. Anybody can have a look, so I don't find that quite rude, just their way to accomplish.

Norah Tue 25-Apr-17 16:45:38

I read the OP more closely. At 3 yrs old the gifts are what mum wants anyway, not the childs favourite.

grannylyn65 Tue 25-Apr-17 16:51:51


Cherrytree59 Tue 25-Apr-17 16:59:37

Too many plastic toys that will be at the bottom of the toy box in no time at all. hmm

M0nica Tue 25-Apr-17 22:07:52

Shows a very unimaginative mind. Very few of the presents we have given our DGC over the years could have been bought on Amazon. Most have been bought on the spur of the moment having already consulted with the parents.

Lillie Tue 25-Apr-17 23:03:56

That's a shame because it doesn't allow the givers the pleasure of choosing what they think the little boy/girl might like.
It seems very greedy of the parent.

Menopaws Wed 26-Apr-17 09:37:26

What happened to sitting down with child and writing a cute wish list which the mum can then pick the bones out of and helping the child in a sweeter way than pushing a button, sad.

seacliff Wed 26-Apr-17 09:59:56

I am torn on this. First thoughts are Nooo ... seems so materialistic, almost like giving a wedding list, and for a three year old!

But, if I were lucky enough to have grandchildren, and didn't seem them very regularly, I would have no idea what to get them. I could guess, but it might be a waste of money or duplicate present.So I'd ask for some ideas and be given a small list. So this isn't really any different I suppose.Like someone said, it is a ongoing list of ideas, not just aimed at you. It is just the way things happen these days.

If I could, I'd want to talk to the child and try and elicit some ideas. Sometimes you can think of something they never knew existed, and would love.

yggdrasil Wed 26-Apr-17 11:51:08

<That's a shame because it doesn't allow the givers the pleasure of choosing what they think the little boy/girl might like. >

My MIL used to do that when my kids were little. She never had the faintest idea what her grandchildren actually did like. This was very embarrassing when they came for Christmas and expected gushing joy. I did teach the children to be polite but there is only so much a little one will do :-)

Lillie Wed 26-Apr-17 15:06:01

He he. grin My MIL bought the same presents for our children 2 years running, mainly because she never bothered to visit us or ask anything about her GC. We used to joke that she'd probably bought a job lot in the sales!

M0nica Wed 26-Apr-17 15:49:47

What happens if Amazon does not sell the items the child would like?

Norah Wed 26-Apr-17 16:09:27

Is there anything not on Amazon for GC? Seems we have daily deliveries.

M0nica Wed 26-Apr-17 19:19:52

I once knitted DGD a Katy Morag sweater, Amazon doesn't have that, nor a tam o shanter like that worn by the heroine in 'The Secret Garden'. It also doesn't offer a bedroom interior decoration service.

nettyandmasey Thu 27-Apr-17 10:22:57

personally I think they are a good idea, my daughters both have them, with small items on.Do not however share them on facebook! I have one myself, mainly of books, as my children would rather get me something I want and my son loves it! You know what men are for shopping.

pamdixon Thu 27-Apr-17 10:24:33

personally, I'm happy to be given a list of suggestions (amazon or otherwise) for grandchildren's birthday/chirstmas presents. I have 6 grandchildren, and it saves a lot of time if you don't see the children regularly enough to discuss with them what they'd like. Parents do know best sometiems! its the modern way as other people have commented