Names for 'the other granny'.

If speaking to sons in law I would say 'your mum/dad. My DDs MIL /FIL . would be referred to by their first name. If talking to mutual DGC it would be the name they call them e. Granny, Grandpa.

I won't tell you what we call D's ex MiL

Not in front of the GC I hasten to add.

Same as ginny

Petalmoore do you mean Booba?

I say Granny ____ whatever their name is.
My own Grandmothers were called Nanny Bridge St. or Nanny Ealing because that's where they lived.

To DGC: Grandma A, to DDiL: your mum/mother. To anybody who knows her: A, to others who do not know her; J/DDiL's mother.

What monica said except ours is nana/granny rather than Grandma A. I don't understand the difficulty!

I use their first names.

I call my opposite numbers by their first names - no problem at all, and say 'your mum/dad' if I'm talking to my DIL and 'gramma/grandpa' to the grandchildren. What I meant to ask was whether any of you has a specific word to refer to either or both of them when talking to a third party, not a family member, for example when I was telling a friend about the 'other granny' being proud of her Norwegian ancestry. 'My daughter-in-law's mother' is quite long-winded. I once got in a muddle and found myself talking about my DIL's MIL, then realised I was talking about myself!

Magsus, you're right - Jewish grannies are often called Bubbe or similar, but I thought someone might know the word for what the other granny is to me, as in 'she's my ??????'.

Other gran? The opposition?

kittylester Other gran is good; the opposition is not good.

Not if one of them is the mother of 'the Idiot'

DH calls our other gran That Woman.

Try living next door to "The other gran"! Not always easy

Amnesia, because she seems to have forgotten she has three grandchildren and not just two! Fortunately DH and I have more than enough love for him to make up for the shortfall!

Ask your son?

I see what you mean petalmoore as there doesn't seem to be a specific name for your 'counterpart' MIL/Granny.

I do what M0nica does - refer to DS's MIL by her 'grandmother' name when speaking to the DGC, 'your mum' to DDIL, 'DDIL's' mother if speaking to people who don't know her and by her first name otherwise.

Same with DD's MIL.

DGC's other granny as well if we are talking about the DGC.

Yes, it is long-winded, it would be nice to have a specific name.

I use the name the children use when speaking with them, your Mum to her daughter and use her first name at all other times. If it's relevant i might add xyz's Mum as an explanation but often it's not needed.

Petalmoore - I think the Yiddish word you're looking for may be "machataynista"!!.

We refer to our daughter-in-law's parents by their first names when talking about them, but when it's to our daughter-in-law, we say your mum and dad.

Thanks, Magsus - that's it! Do people use the word in English when talking about their machataynista - say, if they're telling their hairdresser about the ghastly mauve dress the lady wore to a wedding they all attended? I've always liked the idea of a specific word for someone with whom many people have a close relationship as part of an extended family, just as the words uncle, aunt, nephew, niece and so on are used. And what about 'other grandad' - is there a term for him too?