I apologise in advance for the content of this post but I really need some input and have no-one else I can turn to for such sensitive advice.
About 3 months ago, after lots of dancing around each other, my ex-husband and I decided to give it another go. We were together for 14 years and have been divorced for 13. It has been weird starting a new relationship with someone I know so well but it has made it easier in some respects. But... when we were married, he was always up for sex, and now he's not. He says he loves me (that he never stopped loving me); he says he fancies me (even though I'm heavier than I used to be but then, so is he). He isn't as demonstrative as he used to be and he has admitted that the reason for this is that he thinks it will lead to sex. His issue, he says, is that his sex drive has diminished through lack of use.
I'm not convinced that is the reason - when we used to be in bed he was already 'ready' if you know what I mean. Now, never - and it takes quite a lot of work to get him that way. He says it's because he's old - he's 53! I'm worried that there's a health reason behind it but he refuses to accept that. I don't want to make him anxious about this because I know that will make things worse but I'm worried. Any ideas??
