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Worries about premature birth of Grandchild.

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Lindylou57 Thu 25-May-17 10:59:36

Dont really expect any answers but need to talk, My DD was admitted to hospital last night with severe bleeding. She is almost 27 weeks pregnant with her first baby, concieved by IVF. Docs have examined her and she has been kept in for observation, given a steroid injection and is waiting to see specialist later this morning. Our hospital doesn't deal with babies born 27 weeks and younger so they may have to transfer her to one almost an hour away. I am so worried, I keep crying, hardly slept. Just praying all is going to be okay. Hubby has taken himself off to study to 'work from home today'. I've called in sick. Trying to stay calm.

radicalnan Fri 26-May-17 11:14:04

Keep us posted we are all thinking of you.
xx

sweetcakes Fri 26-May-17 11:31:55

I hope you hear soon and I hope it's positive things sending you my best wishes
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TheMaggiejane1 Fri 26-May-17 11:43:45

What a very worrying time for you, you just want to be there with your DD holding her hand don't you?

Medical science is so good nowadays, I ran a mother and baby group for 10 years and met lots of lovely healthy babies born as early as 24 weeks so there's plenty that can be done for this little one!

Gaggi3 Fri 26-May-17 12:15:51

One of DD's friends had twins (IVF) at 28 weeks. It was very alarming and worrying at the time but they started school in September. Not saying it will be o.k. just that it can. Keep strong, am sending good wishes to you and yours.

grannytotwins Fri 26-May-17 12:38:28

My DD's twins were born at 31 weeks. They are now in year R and both reading and writing. I was a nervous wreck, but the steroids did help and she managed to keep them in for two days after going into labour. The chances at 27 weeks are excellent. I hope it all goes well and a lovely healthy baby will be home around the due date or a couple of weeks earlier.

Lindylou57 Fri 26-May-17 12:59:15

Thanks for all your kind messages. To bring you up to date. They found a polyp on her cervix. Thats what was bleeding. They cant remove it till after baby born, likelyhood she will be premature and it will be caesarian. Having a second steroid injection to help develop baby lungs etc then DD can go home but has to go back next week for further scan. Baby good and heartbeat strong so thats a relief. Worrying time tho. Thanks for all the positivety. Much appreciated. Xx

hulahoop Fri 26-May-17 13:25:01

Lindy hope all goes well ?

KnittyNannie Fri 26-May-17 13:32:10

My grandson was born at 27 weeks. He is now 16 and 6' 2".

schnackie Fri 26-May-17 15:10:56

Best wishes and prayers for LindyLou57, I certainly hope that all goes well for your daughter. I agree with posters that it would probably be best for her to be at the hospital that can deal with the baby if necessary. I also want to thank everyone who posted their stories about premature babies who grew up to become healthy children and adults. I was an NICU and SCBU nurse for many years in the late 70's and 80's and I often wonder how some of those little ones did so this gives me hope for at least some of them.

nanaK54 Fri 26-May-17 15:16:02

All good wishes from me too flowers

Christalbee Fri 26-May-17 15:24:57

My prayers are with you Lindylou. Hoping for the best outcome. Terrible worrying times. Bless you all!!

Gaggi3 Fri 26-May-17 19:47:18

Forgot my ultimate message of hope. My stepfather was born weighing 2.5 lbs in 1908 and lived to be 84. I think his survival at that time was nothing short of miraculous. Glad to hear there are some rays of light for you, Lindylou.

morethan2 Fri 26-May-17 20:19:29

Phew relief ...for now

mcem Fri 26-May-17 20:26:14

schnackie thank you for all the work you and your colleagues have done. My own DGD was born by section at 36 weeks - planned because of DD's health problems. She weighed 5lb 2oz.
An hour after birth she had a pneumothorax and spent a week in nicu.
Now a bright, bonny 7 yr-old she looked at pictures of herself in the incubator and asked about the tube up her nose!
A wonderful supportive staff who achieve miracles on a daily basis.
Her older sister (17) plans to be a midwife.

Legs55 Fri 26-May-17 21:06:42

My DGS2 was born last week at 38 weeks, induction as DD had gestational diabetes. Fortunately this time all went well, we all feared another emergency section.

When DGS1 was born we lived 180 miles away (3 hour journey) all seemed ok when she went into labour & we planned to go for when she would be coming home day after baby was born. After 15 hours of labour she needed emergency c section, cue throwing bags in car & mad dash from Surrey to Devon. DGS1 is a healthy 7 year old.

I know this is different from your situationLindylou57 but I do understand how worried you are. Fingers crossed all turns out okflowers

Caro1954 Fri 26-May-17 22:08:11

Thinking of you Lindylou. Grateful for the latest good news and hope all continues smoothly. flowers

maddy629 Sat 27-May-17 05:43:38

My son was born at 28 weeks in 1972, weighing 1 1/2 pounds. He is fine and now has 2 boys of his own.

I truly hope all turns out well for your daughter and her baby.

Sending you and them big hugs xx

NannyKasey Sat 27-May-17 17:03:19

My dad is a premature twin born in 1939, sadly his brother didn't survive but 78 years on, my dad is a retired paramedic, with 2 children, 5 grandchildren and 2 great granddaughters.

GrandmaMoira Sun 28-May-17 17:30:52

I'm glad your daughter and baby are OK.

ElaineI Sun 28-May-17 22:34:24

At this stage Lindylou every day increases the baby's outcome and I'm sure your daughter and SIL will have had all this explained. My DGS is 3 ½ now and was born at 31 weeks. It was terrifying but DD and SIL were taken round NNU and given reassurance by the doctors and nurses. He was small but perfect and only required oxygen support and the care of the wonderful NNU nurses. He caught up with the gestational age/corrected age when he was about 8 months and has had no ill effects apart from being prone to chest infections with heavy colds. Now he is a very demanding, very articulate little boy who has just had a broken arm from gymnastics and who informed the nurse as he was being led to the plaster room "I will decide if I have a cast or not!" She won I hasten to add although he was allowed to control the chair. I hope your daughter's polyp calms down and causes no more problems but I really understand how scary it is to not be able to fix things for our adult children and make things ok! DD was an IVF pregnancy too and I think I was much more worried during the pregnancy than I ever remember with my own pregnancies. Sometimes I think I worry more about my adult children than I did when they were small. I don't know if anyone else feels like this? I do hope your daughter is ok x

Rowantree Mon 29-May-17 18:22:23

Thinking of you, lindylou and hoping all is calmer with your DD's situation. Hugs. Please keep us posted if you can.

Elainel Completely agree with your penultimate sentence! You feel you have some semblance of control when your children are small (illusory though it might be) - but when they reach adulthood that's a different kettle of proverbial fish, and I've aged decades on many occasions with the many occurring crises! In fact I calculate that my real age is now almost 990 years....grin

Lindylou57 Tue 30-May-17 20:50:05

Thanks again to all. Had a scan today and all is well. Unless bleeding starts again not due back till end of June. Will keep you all posted. Its true we worry more about our children when they are older than when they were younger!

whitewave Tue 30-May-17 20:53:00

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cornergran Tue 30-May-17 22:24:24

That must be a relief. Love and best wishes to you all.

Rowantree Mon 05-Jun-17 10:51:01

Just read your post, Lindylou57 - that's a relief! I agree with you though about worrying more about children when they're older. I think it's because we imagine we have some element of control when they're little (illusory, I'm sure!)

And.....breathe! flowers