Is my son being naive????

The idea of somehow instigating a racist thread had not occurred to me, but if so, OP chose the wrong forum.
I felt whatever the agenda, this was like an empty room with a fight scheduled in it.
It degenerated very quickly into aggression and accusations of lack of sympathy, "name calling" and hostility. Perhaps fuelled by the lateness of the hour?
But frankly when OP said after half a dozen replies " I expected a different reception " I did wonder WHAT she was expecting.
Takes all sorts.

It occurred to me immediately that it was an attempt to stir up anti Mulim replies.

I think the original poster has tripped up at the end of her post she doesn't ask for advice as to how to deal with this situation, look at her last remark 'What do you think' .......she is inviting a discussion about a potentially dangerous situation with a Muslim woman at the centre of the story
I personally am afraid it's an inflammatory story to get us going

There's always the possibility that the woman was making an effort to integrate further into her local community. It's what's rammed down our throats on a daily basis isn't it? That said, in the circumstances I wouldn't necessarily go into her house. Common sense. Just saying.

Sorry Wilma you don't use a young man to help you integrate you join a women's group, you do voluntary work, you have a cup of tea with the elderly couple opposite, you don't approach a complete young male stranger in he street Let's get real

It was just a thought. I think young women brought up in this country are likely to be more forward than someone who has emigrated here. Just because they have adopted traditional dress doesn't necessarily mean they have adopted all strict cultural traditions. That's jumping to conclusions.

If you can't tell your son your worries you can't have a good relationship with him. My 3 DSs know I worry about them constantly and accept it comes with the job.

I don't think it's wrong to come to conclusions about people based on what they wear. I think that is quite normal and, speaking biologically, an important survival technique humans have evolved over a very long time. A hijab is a badge, just as , say, a Christian cross on a chain round one's neck is, some Jewish men's side ringlets of hair, or a Sikh turban. These things tell others something important (to you) about you.

What's wrong is to act in prejudicial ways based on your conclusions.

OP, yes, your son is being incredibly naive. This is why incredulity has been expressed on this thread.

It would be wiser for your son to suggesr meeting her for a tea/coffee in a very public place eg Costa or similar, and for him to be going elsewhere first, and not going home straight afterwards, so that he does not give her a lift. If at any point he does decide to invite her round, or visit her home, he should take a 'sister' or other female relative until he knows the girl and her family well enough to be sure that all is as it seems.
Sadly much as we may wish to mix and be friends, in this day and age we should go carefully until we are sure of the situation.

Perhaps he could arrange to meet her somewhere public like a coffee shop, and have a good reason for not going straight home afterwards to avoid offering a lift.
Best of all would be if he could arrange for another female to be there.

My first message didn't show so I write another - now you have both!

This scenario presented by namsnanny is panning out in a similar way to many other such posts which will end up going nowhere. The whole tale is just not at all authentic . GN has seen so many of these "time wasting" attempts at stirring up whatever. The poster is true to the pattern of someone with nothing better to do with their time. The protests by the OP that the story is true . I have a rather nasty feeling that we have have encountered you before of GN.

I must be the naive one! Can't imagine why anyone would bother to make up situations.
If the post is true I would think the race/religion of the girl is immaterial. It would be very unwise to accept a young girls invitation into her house. As someone else has said maybe meet for a coffee in a public place.

Sunlover you are assuming that everyone is a normal rational person like you (and I hope) me, but there are all sorts of cookies out there, from political agitators to those with bees in their bonnets about some subject or another, or just trouble makers and the mentally unsettled.

That someone could be bothered to make up a situation like this and run with it doesn't surprise me at all.

Has anybody like me thought of what our response would have been if OP's daughter had been offered free parking permits and the invitation to a cuppa in a strange man's house?
I am guessing 100% "RUN!"
Just thinking.
Would OP even have asked?

Yes, it had occurred to me but after OP wrote my adult children live a very 'peace and love' life style, and find any negativity oppressive. (among other things) I decided she probably wouldn't understand why the situation would be any different if it was her daughter who was involved.

As op hasn't returned it has all the hallmarks of other fakes threads we ve had Come on, open a new thread, give a strange scenario, get everyone commenting, giving opinions, advice then disappear Really not worth continuing
Light blue touch paper and retire

Well the OP didn't show much love and peace in her answers did she ?

But didn't it give us a lot of fun while it ran?

Well, not really...Now if he'd gone in with her and then refused to tell his mum what happened, that would have been interesting!

IF it's genuine, she probably has a father, uncles, brothers, even a husband who wouldn't be happy about the liason.

As a historian of religion, I do know a lot about Islam AND I have Muslim friends. I can assure you that no well-brought up Muslim girl or woman would invite a total stranger of the opposite sex into her home, if she lives alone. So either the young woman lives with her parents or is married, if she meant her invitation as your son thinks in a purely friendly fashion.
Obviously, some Muslim women are prostitutes, so that might be a possibility, or she could be even more devious and planning as someone suggested to cry "rape". Other scenarios present themselves to my cynical mind too, she could be a pickpocket, or have a husband or brother at home ready to do the mugging.
If your son is interested in getting to know this girl better then his only possibility is to invite her to a café for a cuppa in some other, preferably distant part of town, unless he invites you, his mother, along as chaperone.
However, he should realise that no religious Muslim girl can marry a man of another faith without running into very real difficulties with her family and the local imam, and living with a man she is not married to, is out of the question as well. So unless your son is contemplating converting to Islam, my advice would be to steer well clear of this girl and others like her. There is definitely a sub-text here, that is quite impossible to read when none of us was in the street when and where the incident occurred.

Anyone's daughter likely to go out in the street and start chatting to a young man who was parking?
Anyone's son be spoken to in the street by a strange young woman and invited immediately in for tea? Would he tell you if he were?
I speak to strangers in the street sometimes, we rarely get further than an exchange of pleasantries about the weather.