My DH has 6 grandchildren by four children, I have one daughter who has no children. All of our children are in their 30's
1 of my stepchildren lives locally, she has recently returned to the area as a single parent (her partner died last year) with 2 small children (age 4 and 1) When she started her job here my DH (who is retired) made it clear that whilst he would help out if the children were sick, or in emergencies, he wasn't up to looking after them full time whilst she works. He eventually relented to an extent.
He now looks after them for 1 full day a week as well as odd days at the weekend. I know he finds this exhausting, though he's loathe to admit it.
I made it clear early on that, as i work full time, i would not be prepared to help out, I am exhausted at the end of the day and the last thing i want is to be looking after small children. I don't mind the odd hour here and there, but if i were to choose a career, child care would be at the bottom of my list.
I was a single parent myself for many years, with no family help whatsoever, and I just got on with it.
My OH is now hinting that i should help out more, prehaps i could take a day off here and there when he has the two of them.
I really don't want to do this but i am torn between feeling guilty that i don't want to help out more and knowing i will feel resentful and exhausted if i do.
I am sure i will get some flack from some of you but is it just me? How do feel about your step-grandchildren? Do you want to look after them? Does it come naturally to you?
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