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Serkeen Sat 19-Aug-17 18:50:46

Hi everyone,, wanted to chat about something that happened to me this week, that made me very sad and well angry too.

My daughter in law asked me to babysit grandson, not quite two yrs old, I ok'd that but the day before I was due to baby sit I felt unwell, just had loads of stress recently, and had to let my daughter in law know that I was unwell and wouldn't be able to babysit, to which she replied well I have no one else so I agreed to just rest well and babysit anyway, but this is where the drama started because when I asked her what time she was bringing my grandson she huffed and said no need I will take him with me on my chore, I again said I would babysit but she became very huffy with me.

Now what happened next is what really upset me. I am waiting for my residents parking permit in the post and my daughter in law is allowing me to use her visitors permit until I receive mine and she refused to let me have it on the day of the due babysitting and til now, and it has cost me a parking ticket and loads of stress as to where to park the car.

I am convinced that she is being spiteful and it has really upset me that she would do that and she also has made me the baddy, telling my son that I would not babysit but omitting the bit were I did in the end agree to babysit.

Also when speaking to my husband about this he was just trying to justify why she did what she did which just upset ten fold.

I feel she is so un grateful, as only last week I baby sat two nights in a row, I am always helping her on a regular basis and I do loads for her, just so flabbergasted..

Serkeen Sun 27-Aug-17 16:26:18

Hi everyone, just wanted to give an update for anyone that might be interested.

My DIL has broken the silence and has spoke to me now.

We happen to meet each other at a Farmers Market and she just acted as she normally would but made a little more effort to speak to me, which was nice.

Obviously I too acted as normal and spoke as normal to her.

Soooooo glad it's all over.

Thank you for your support, soo lucky that it was there for me and it definitely made a huge difference in terms of dealing with it all.

Advice is always brilliant, always a mix but that is a good thing.

So from the bottom of my heart Thank you

MissAdventure Sun 27-Aug-17 16:33:24

So glad you've been able to move on from it, both of you. flowers

Jalima1108 Sun 27-Aug-17 16:34:31

Glad it turned out OK

Serkeen Tue 29-Aug-17 11:13:02

Bit of a dilemma for me now..

Now that I have seen this side of my DIL, were she can be purposely mean. I am a bit afraid to trust that she will not do it again.

I do not know, how to be with her now, the trust is gone and I am now not sure how to be around her ? ? Or what kind of a relationship

Jalima1108 Tue 29-Aug-17 11:18:16

Sail on as if it never happened.

She may have been anxious, pre-menstrual, under the weather and reacted out of character.

Norah Tue 29-Aug-17 17:15:19

If you don't trust her you can still have a passable not involved relationship. Just watch p and q.