I often read on Gransnet that people have dumped friends because they haven't contacted enough, haven't supported them enough, haven't done enough.... I think I am that friend! I am hopeless at second guessing, forget to reply to people and worse still, have a panic attack if I have to go out then make excuses why I don't see people, I don't have many friends unsurprisingly.. However, I would love to be able to relax with anyone enough not to panic and have a good conversation without these inner thoughts that I may pass out, panic or run away.
How do you all fair with being supportive, considerate and having the memory of an elephant for every anniversary. I am so envious of people surrounded by loads of friends.
I have been told I look and sound really confident but no-one realises that I have this terrible selfish anxiety problem. I'm pretty good at putting up a wall, polite etc but if anyone gets too close I back off, just in case.
Just wanted to relay this to you all as perhaps, when you next dump that "unresponsive" friend, you may realise that perhaps they really cant help themselves. Are you all really good at friendships or is it just me.. surely not?
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